Tigerlilly Quinn: Thank You Mama

Monday, 9 January 2012

Thank You Mama

I almost entitled this post 'mama I love you' in a spice girls-esque way (when that single came out I was 10 years old and asked my mum if she would like it for mothers day. She politely declined!). 
I thought about adding this little thank you in Wilf's birth story but then realised it needed its own little post. In the past four weeks I have had a tiny insight into how hard/rewarding it is to be a mama and have a little person depend on you for everything. However I have yet to (and hope I can live up to) become the kind of mum my mum is. Even before my pregnancy and Wilfryd's birth I owed her so much but since becoming pregnant and having Wilf I feel it has made our relationship even stronger. I could go on and on about the times she has been there for me but this post would be never ending. Instead I would like to acknowledge her help during the most important even in my life, the birth of my son. 
When I first became pregnant (or rather after the first nerve wracking 12 weeks) Tom and I spoke about the type of birth we would like to have. It was taken for granted that Tom would be at the birth but I never really thought about my mum being there too. It was around four months when Tom suggested she help at the birth and as soon as he said it I realised how much I would like her to be. 
Tom actually said he would feel more comfortable having her present too, one as another person to help share the birth partner role and two because she is a qualified midwife which would put him at ease as we would be without a midwife for a large amount of the labour. 
I never once felt worried or scared during labour and I think a lot of this was because I knew I was in safe hands with my mum being there. I knew that as long as she was calm then I had no reason to be stressed. My mum has always been a huge inspiration to me, having her first child at 21 on a small island in Greece. Being the ultimate hippy using Ina May's Spiritual Midwifery as her guide a before a donkey riding midwife was called for (who arrived just as my elder brother was born, was given camomile tea and swaddled). She then continued to have myself and other three siblings at home without any complications. 
One of my proudest moments after having Wilf was my mum telling me how fantastic I had done and how impressed she was with me (sure she is my mum so probably would have said this anyway but still). It also made me realise that at 26 years old my mum is still such a huge part of my life, being a mama is a lifelong job! xoxo


thingsandstuff said...

This is such a beautiful post to read! Your Mum sounds like a very relaxed and wonderful person :) My Mum was with me when my first daughter, Ella, was born in hospital. It really brought us closer and re-cemented our relationship after a bit of a rocky period....sadly she couldn't be there at the birth of my two subsequent daughters but was one of the very first people who came to see me (I had Ruby in a teeny tiny cottage hospital and Rowan was born in the front room of the house I currently live in!)....I think you are amazing for having your first baby at home, secretly I'd have loved to have had Ella at home but sadly she had the cord all tangled round her and we needed a bit of help!
My girls are getting much bigger now but it still makes me go all squishy when I think about when they were born...and my Ma has said the same about when I was born....and my Grandma has said the same about when my Ma was born! Being a Mum/having a Mum is an ace thing xxx

Gavin said...

And I had thought the midwife in Skiathos came in a taxi, not a donkey - but she had been out picking olives, and was called back from that. We even passed her on our own way down to the clinic as she whizzed past in a cloud of dust going in totally the opposite direction towards her olive grove! We'd tried for a home birth but there was aproblem with placenta previa, so a friend did an emergency run 7 km down the hill to get a taxi to come and get Sue. And Keir was the first foreign baby born in Skiathos that anyone could remember :) But the Ina May book, Spiritual Midwifery was definitely our main guide, along with such wonderful books as the NYPD guide to emergency child birth!

Rhianne said...

I read this and your birth story today and I'm so that that you shared them. Both posts are beautiful and I'm so glad it went well for you and little Wilf.

I can't actually imagine my Mum not being there if I have a baby lol, she would beat down the door if I even suggested that she wasn't there lol.

FAYE WEST said...

Amazing Mum you have there, am sure you will follow in your footsteps. I will definitely be re-reading all your birth related posts when I finally get to babymaking stage. They have been really insightful, like when I ask my now pregnant-again best friend weird questions about it all! xx
ps I wanted to get Spice Girls Mama for Mum too, which she wouldn't have liked, but it made me have a little cry even back then!

Sean said...

When Susan said she thought you did fantastically, I know she really meant it. We are both very impressed with how well you managed with your first birth. I also felt much happier knowing Susan was there with you. (I didn't know I could post on here before Fritha! - without registering with something).

Tigerlilly Quinn said...

aww thanks daddy! :D x

Tigerlilly Quinn said...

@thingsandstuff Its lovely having your mum there isnt it, I must admit as a teenager we weren't so close but now I couldnt do without her!Congrats on all your girls x

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