Tigerlilly Quinn: An experience with nursing bras

Wednesday, 2 October 2013

An experience with nursing bras


I'm not sure that I ever mentioned here the time I went for a bra fitting 9 months after having a baby. Up until that point I had rather embarrassingly been living in sleep bras and hand me downs from the sister in law who had recently stopped breastfeeding. I guess initially breastfeeding was such a horrid experience I was kind of working towards a six month mark and was perhaps not envisioning continuing much further.

As I've mentioned before on the blog that once Wilf was around six months old breastfeeding did a 180 and became a hugely enjoyable experience. I started to realise then that with no 'end date' in sight I should probably go get myself fitted properly! My experience was a weird one to say the least.

I don't really want to go naming names so lets say the establishment I chose to do my bra shopping in was a well known British high street shop, one that perhaps your mum buys you socks and pants from at Christmas? yep that one. My experience was a weird one in that the lady fitting me had never come across someone who was still breastfeeding at nine months.

The conversation started as me stating I hadn't been measured since just before I gave birth and could I be measured for a nursing bra please. The lady said it would probably be best to leave it a few weeks until so they could measure more accurately. I realised after a few seconds she must think I had just recently given birth (Wilf was being entertained by a friend outside and so she had not seen him) and so apologised for the confusion and said no it had in-fact been nine months. The sales lady closed her measuring tape and said that it would be best for me to come back in a month or so when I wouldn't need a nursing bra to be fitted for a regular bra. I have to say that all this was said without the slightest bit of hostility and I actually think that no offence was intended but that she had honestly not come across a person still breastfeeding at this stage. I said I'd rather still be measured for a nursing bra if that was ok and once this was established she began measuring. She asked how long I planned to continue for to which I mumbled 'not sure really' and then just as she was putting away her tape she said 'as long as your not one of those weirdos that are still breastfeeding their four year olds!' I think this was meant as a leaving joke to clear the air, something we could both agree on was totally weird. Of course it isn't but I wasn't about to get into a debatable with the sales assistant about it. My friend told me afterwards that she had passed Wilf in the pushchair as I was getting dressed, peered in and said 'is this the child who is still breastfeeding?'.

Totally weird experience.

It almost makes me want to return for another fitting with my nearly two year old.

So all that taken into account I can also reveal, rather embarrassingly that it has been over a year since I got a new bra...(I did buy more than one last time btw!)

What's a breastfeeding story without a review of a nursing bra hey? Carriwell sent me their newly released 'Seamless GelWire bra'. This is happy news for my boobs as it gives the support of an underwire bra by using gel support and without the wire of course. It is also extremely comfortable and can expand up to two sizes to allow for change in size between nursing. I have to say you can really notice a different in support!

I'm always happy to promote breastfeeding friendly products and would certainly recommend this bra to anyone in the look out for a nursing bra. You can find out what stores near you stock them by clicking here. Thanks Carriwell!

You can see my other breastfeeding posts here and here

16 comments:

Jo said...

I've had a similar problem with the same retailer... Went in when zeb was about 12 months as I thought it was time to replace the (now enormous!) bras I got when he was born. They also couldn't understand why I still wanted nursing bras... And then as it turns out they don't make them small enough to fit me now! Still wearing those 3 cups sizes too big bras :(

indigogirl said...

I have never had a pleasant experience being fitted for a bra from that store - I must have spent in excess of £100 on bras in the month surrounding my little one's birth, because I had to keep going back. The first time I was fitted for a maternity bra, she scolded me for wearing the wrong size and asked who had fitted it - it was her!! I finally went to another store and got fitted there. The sales girl wouldn't have it that the bra she measured as correct was too tight, but eventually conceded and gave me the larger of the two sizes, which was still tight enough that I ended up with a bad case of mastitis the week after. I eventually bought two bras from our local NCT bra fitting lady, one of which I have worn EVERY DAY for the last 7 months (baby is now 9 months old!) I too am not sure how long I will continue to breastfeed, but I will probaly just carry on with this bra, as it just feels like it will be humiliating annoying waste of time and money!

jess said...

how rude !!!



huh cant comment on nursing bras but i can tell you they produce my size (34G) in the type of styles my Nan wouldnt be seen dead in. anything above a DD and they assume your taste style or wanting to look remotely attractive in your undies has gone,

Jenni said...

I have only been for one fitting and not at the store you mentioned. I didn't have any of the totally inappropriate judgemental attitude but they did fit the bra too tight which means that it is excruciating to wear. I think it helps if the woman fitting you has had a baby and they are more likely to understand that something that is a snug fit when fitted may be too small next week as your milk fluctuates so much. I fear I will have to go back again soon, but I will use my better judgement this time and get something a bit looser.

I've had fittings in Bravissimo before which have been very good so I think that will be my next port of call, although I don't think there's much choice of style. There are lots of lovely styles in loads of styles online but I'm a bit nervous at choosing a size!

Adele Jarrett-Kerr said...

I'm sorry, I'm actually laughing here. I'll bet you gave her an education! Carriwell bras look amazing. I'm really impressed with the thought they put into them. A shame they only do standard sizes. I recommend them to others though I can't wear them myself.

Amy Lorimer said...

John must have been around 9 months old when I finally got fitted for a nursing bra too. (I too just made do with sleep ones before that.) But there was one time when I went to Mothercare, when John was only a few weeks old, with the intention of being fitted but after a horrendously awkward experience of leaking all over the changing room floor whilst another baby (not even my own!) cried from across the shop, I think I was too traumatised to even considering getting a properly fitted nursing bra.


Once I did take the plunge, I opted for John Lewis and I have to say, they were really quite supportive (both in fit & in regards to breastfeeding!). I'll most likely use them again once baby number 2 arrives and I get myself fitted once more - hopefully before the 9 month mark though!


Amy xo
http://www.amylorimer.com

fritha strickland said...

gosh really! I thought maybe it had been a one off thing but that sounds so similar to my experience! x

fritha strickland said...

haha! yep, same goes for nursing bras for sure! xx

fritha strickland said...

that doesn't sound good at all! I also think you are right, it would help if the woman fitting had had a baby or had some experience of breastfeeding. I'll have to check them out too! xx

fritha strickland said...

ha! Can you imagine though, Wilf was only 9months, if he had been over a year or something it would have been even worse I reckon! Ah I didn't realise they only did standard sizes, shame, they are super comfy! x

fritha strickland said...

oh gosh this sounds like a situation I would find myself in! I used to leak whenever I heard any baby but not quite in a position like that. It did make me laugh a little to read it! Poor you, glad John Lewis were so supportive, thats very interesting! x

fritha strickland said...

bra's are so expensive I think I must have spent close to the same when it comes to maternity/nursing bras so its awful if they then are the wrong size or feel uncomfortable! I really wish I had gone to see the NCT lady, we were offered the option and I don't know why I didn't take it! I think I was shy about going to her house rather than the anonymity of a stranger in a shop. Silly really but I think I wasn't quite myself in those early months and just didn't think about it as the time went on! xx

Gemma said...

Awkward!!! It seems that thankfully, I never was fitted for a nursing bra - I just wore those soft, seamless and very unflattering ones! Yuck! The Carriwell one's look lovely.

My youngest is three now, but I breastfed my three children until they were all well over one! It's so strange how some people regard breastfeeding.

x

Emma Tait said...

I think that's so rude, I don't think people should be so opinionated well at least not aloud in a shop assistant to customer at least!! I must admit I'm having a nightmare with being fitted for normal bras I have been to 2 different shops which say the same size yet I find them uncomfortable and keep going back to wearing supermarket ones in the wrong size as I spent so much on the apparently right sized ones!

Kath Knitty Mummy said...

The only bad experience I had with a nursing bra was going to an antenatal exercise class. It was usually run by a very understanding woman who knew we were all sleep deprived and not capable of jumping up and down as our poor boobs (and pelvic floors) couldn't take it, but she was sick one day and anther woman covered. She made us jump like crazy and I had to hold onto my boobs for dear life. She singled me out and made a point of the fact I was wearing the wrong bra in front of the whole class. I wasn't wearing the wrong bra - I was wearing a nursing bra, she was doing the wrong exercises, this was supposed to be a class that sports bras weren't needed at. But of course I was tired and hormonal and ended up running out of the class in tears. I later complained but the sports centre manager did nothing about it, so I never went back.

Natasha Hanson said...

I haven't ever been fitted (not even for a regular one!) but just wanted to say as a nursing mom to a 1 year old, go you! Nursing is still my favorite part of the day and I hope to continue as long as he wants to. Glad I found your blog!!

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