Tigerlilly Quinn: Me and you

Monday, 20 January 2014

Me and you


I mentioned in this post at the end of last year that I was really excited to be hosting this linky with four other lovely bloggers (and their long suffering partners, ha!). There really are hardly any pictures of just Tom and I and it's something I want to rectify in 2014.

Although we kind of expected it to some extent, I guess I wasn't fully prepared as to how all consuming the love for your little one is when you become a parent. Truthfully there are times when I didn't put as much effort into our relationship as I could have. For me I struggled with 'me time' and felt that being there and looking after the small person in our lives meant when he was finally asleep I didn't have the energy for anyone else and that was a hard process to work through. There were only two occasions in our first year of parenthood that we spent without Wilf and they were both for less than two hours!

I think we now worked out a good balance and  although date nights are few and far between we even managed a night away a few months ago! That being said we have worked out we can still spent quality time together if we plan it right, a hot chocolate date whilst Wilf is napping in the pushchair can do the world of good!

I do hope you like the linky and join in too!

You can visit the other lovely bloggers below:

Lucy, Becky, Kirsty, Lauren



16 comments:

Lucy said...

I could have written those words myself. It's so hard as a new mummy to find that balance, and I still wonder if I get the balance quite right all the time. You pour all your energies into the tiny people you've created and leave little for anything else. But at one time putting effort into our relationship was our most precious way to spend time, and I want to get a bit of that back this year.
Love your photo. You look so happy to be together! Which sounds like such an obvious thing to say, but it's lovely just the same. x

Polly Davies said...

Lovely photo Fritha! Making time as a couple is really important but does get overlooked. I totally get what you said about after looking after a little one all day, not having time for anyone else. Some days, after a whole day of looking after three kiddos, all the noise, and physical contact, all I want is to be left alone for an hour or two. And this past year, with G having worked 7 day weeks a lot of it, we've barely spent anytime together - i think that needs addressing this year!

My Two Mums said...

Love the striking colour behind you, it really serves to highlight you both. I agree with what you've said. It's hard, in all truth! I know we are certainly working more on "us" in M's second year of life.

Lauren_W said...

That's really lovely. I love the backdrop. It is so hard to get that quality time but I agree with what you've said about grabbing time when you can. We swear by date nights and also I have a laptop free night every Saturday x

innocentcharmer said...

I agree with Lauren, the backdrop is awesome. It really pops you to out. I am excited for this linky x

LauraCYMFT said...

Lovely photo! Quality time is so important but I'm sure we're all guilty of just wanting "me time" after a day with the kids. I think if you can find the right balance for everything then you're on to a winner...if you find it can you let me know?

JessMcGlynn said...

Lovely photo! I agree, the last four years for us have been so hectic and sometimes we've had to make a conscious decision to NOT talk about stuff relating to the kids and just talk to each other. Finding the balance is hard but it's great to know you are in this with someone else x

Lia Billimore said...

Aww, cute photo Fritha :) xx

Fiona Peacock said...

Lovely photo! x

Life With The Crew said...

Yes, it can be hard to carve out time for just the two of you - my husband and I have not done it since our little babe was born. The longest amount of time that I have spent away from her is when I ran a half marathon in December. And luckily she slept the entire time and didn't know I wasn't there. I think it is even more difficult for mothers that breastfeed and co-sleep. But it is worth the sacrifice.

fritha strickland said...

I would agree with that, especially the breastfeeding bit, I just felt a bit clausterphobic by the end of the day somedays so you feel you just need to be alone. Wilf started sleeping by himself at 18m and although i did love co-sleeping it was the right time and a good move for us as I started to feel like at least I could have that time to myself ha! x

fritha strickland said...

thanks for your lovely comment, I totally agree. It was so helpful to hear other couples were finding couple time hard too! I think its easier for women also to talk about these things where as dads can often feel a bit left out! x

fritha strickland said...

haha yes! x

fritha strickland said...

thank you! me too! x

fritha strickland said...

I need to try that 'laptop free night' we are the WORST for that! x

Jenni said...

The third one is my favourite! I was so excited to see this, I missed it before somehow. My husband just sent in his first 3 rolls of film from his diana. So excited to see them.

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