Tigerlilly Quinn: The days between Christmas and New year

Saturday, 4 January 2014

The days between Christmas and New year



I'm always a bit restless on the days between Christmas and New Year. It seems that relaxing is compulsory but I'm not very good it at.

A lot of my work is done online so a good deal of my time is spent at my laptop but I always feel like relaxing on the sofa watching a film is passive but doing things online is kind of connected and interactive? I have such conflicting emotions about the amount of time I'm glued to my laptop and I know I need to find a balance, I guess not having a TV cuts out the amount of time I would be watching 'whatever' is on and spending that time online is no worse..

I really struggled with the feeling of not acheiving anything with my day when I was a new mum. Days whisked by that felt like 'all' I had done was breastfeed and stare adoringly at my baby and the house was a mess and emails had been left and my blog was suffering and I wasn't drawing or creating.. I read the book 'what mothers do' that really helped with put things in a different perspective so maybe I should read it again to learn how to relax and do 'nothing' somedays too.

Or maybe I'm just always going to be one of those people! Am I alone? 

41 comments:

Kara said...

Hate the time between Christmas and new year too, we don't celebrate new year either so it just seems a bit dull!
Love your pictures - it's really unusual to see a red phone box these days!

Hellies Corner said...

It is difficult to switch off and do nothing, there is always something that needs doing. Love your little ones red wellies :-D

Janie said...

Yes, yes, yes!! That is EXACTLY as I felt as a new mother first time round.

Charly Dove said...

Lovely post and gorgeous, gorgeous photos. I find it impossible to switch off because there's always something to do. Rubbish at sitting down watching a film although I probably should do that and spend less time on my laptop! Have a lovely weekend :)

AnnieMammasaurus said...

I do find I need to make time offline, it's really easy to get sucked into just checking emails and Twitter and so on - although saying that I find it really hard to just do nothing at home! New Years and great times for looking at life and balance aren't they? x

Jai Bess said...

My wee boy is now seven weeks and, having read your blog throughout your pregnancy and early days with Wilf, I went back through your baby archives (does that sound creepy?) just for a feel of other experiences this weird, new baby haze. You mentioned that book 'back in the day' and I bought it. It really helped. It is just nice to know that, despite achieving sweet fa, the time is still well spent. Sometimes you just need someone to point it out to you, right? xx

Becky said...

I find this really hard, i'm awful at 'doing nothing', even though I spend a lot of time 'floating about' online! If I go on the laptop to do 'specifics' then I find I need a list to keep me focused. My aim this coming year is to use my time more productively, and then feel that I can unplug the rest of the time. I rarely watch a film or a TV programme, or even read a book now as a result, which I feel is bad! What i'm finding hard at the moment whilst working on my new-ish blog, is I want to interact with the blogging community on twitter and the like, but finding it hard to strike up meaningful interactions (does that sound weird?!) without spending all my time online. I see other bloggers on twitter constantly chatting to people and wonder how they do it and how they find the time! Really need some tips from others in achieving a good balance, yet 'joining in'.

Becky said...

PS I totally wish I had chilled more with my first baby, and enjoyed more cuddles, feeding and time on the sofa, I too always felt like I had to be 'doing'- cooking, making sure I was on top of washing, the house etc, could kick myself now I have two and absolutely zero time to sit down!

pinkoddy said...

I find it difficult even just to relax in the bath - it's kind of get in get washed get out.
Loving your photos - my husband had only told me the other day about phone boxes that now have books in them but I've not seen them before.

Josie said...

I love that book. Should be essential reading for everyone whether they're mothers or not!

Mellissa Williams said...

I could never cope without a t.v. was it hard not to buy one? I have to admit I'm not good nothing doing anything, I always like to have things on the 'go'.

Vicky Wombwell said...

What gorgeous photos. I love the idea of using old telephone boxes as mini swapping libraries. Is this one in your home town? I am very familier with the feelings you describe, and often feel like I don't really contribute to the world in any way. I think it's a common insecurity, especially for women. I myself need to 'just put the laptop down' too as I'm a little unbalanced (as opposed to unhinged lol) right now, and hubby is feeling neglected. The ability to identify and question your thoughts and feelings is a good one though - I know it helps me keep on an even keel x

Eileen Teo said...

Fab photos! Im the same. I did nothing during the holiday period!

Life With The Crew said...

I am one of those people who is almost always moving. There is always something to be done in the house and I can't sit down to watch a movie if the dishes aren't done, the floor is filthy, etc. However, since having a baby, I have definitely learned that I have to let some things go. The laundry can sit in the dryer; folding it right away is not as important as doing a puzzle with my little babe. I quit my job so that I could stay at home with my little babe and not spend all my time in front of a computer. Since I have started blogging, I sometimes feel that I am still spending more time in front of it than I should and that I am not setting a good example for my little babe. I try to only use the computer when she is napping, but that is difficult because there are other things that also need done that I can't do when she is awake and on the move. So it is a juggling act, but at least I can juggle from home in my pajamas! Very cute black and white photo!
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Jets said...

Ohhh I can't do nothing, there's always a job to be done, so if I even try to relax, for example now there is a mound of ironing that requires my attention, so I can't sit and watch TV as I will hear it calling to me. Instead I am online 'networking' :)

The Egyptian Mummy said...

Love the photos! A couple of months ago I was driving through a little village in Essex and saw a red phone box that was being used as a little village library. Such a great idea!

Keri-Anne said...

Oh, i know this feeling. I try and not go on my laptop once a week but i do feel guilty but then i feel guilty for being on it! It's a tough balance. I try and do all my work in the evening now x

mummydaddyme said...

I have made it one of my goals not to go on the computer as much in 2014- my work is online too, but I feel like I will have a more positive outlook and just generally be a better wife and mother if I try and keep off it a little more. x

Aly said...

Ha! I have s many interests offline I can't get the time to get online until the evening.I found two weeks off was exactly what I needed to spend time being with my kids and switching off from online stuff.I feel refreshed and full of enthusiasm.

Emily said...

Gosh I soooo understand that feeling - I was actually feeling miscellaneous productivity/mother guilt when I opened your post. I'll be giving that book you mention a read. Happy new year. Lovely pics x

fritha strickland said...

thanks Emily! it really is a good book! I realised I've lent it to a friend but I need to get it back and re-read the importance of doing 'nothing' xx

fritha strickland said...

that's so good! I envy you! I just can't seem to unplug x

fritha strickland said...

I really need to do this too, it's so hard when your work is online though isn't it! x

fritha strickland said...

that's a good goal, I think I would really struggle though! I need to work on a better balance! x

fritha strickland said...

it's such a cute idea isn't it! x

fritha strickland said...

this is exactly me! x

fritha strickland said...

that's such a great outlook, it's something I need to work at as if Wilf's playing by himself I will usually open my laptop to try and answer a few quick emails! We decided to put Wilf in nursery for two days when my business took off because I didn't want to be compremising my time with him and trying to be online and working..but I still seem to do it! you are right it's such a juggling act! x

fritha strickland said...

this is in Bridport the little village where Tom is from! it's such a lovely idea isn't it! I really empathise with the 'not contributing to the world' feeling you mention, I felt it very strongly when I had a baby which is bonkers as what could be more important! I also need to give Tom a bit more attention though! xx

fritha strickland said...

well we have a TV we bought when we did have a TV licence and then when Wilf was born we just decided not to renew it as I just didn't want to be stuck in front of it! We now watch box sets which we watch through our TV screen or films on Netflix. It means we maybe watch half an hour/an hour in the evening and Wilf will watch Yo Gabba Gabba for an hour or so a day too :) x

fritha strickland said...

I totally agree! I don't have another child but I can imagine it will never have the time to chill as I did with Wilf if I do! x

fritha strickland said...

I really empathise, I haven't finished a book in two years as I just keep thinking of all the 'productive' things I could be doing instead! I think it's since becoming a mum time is just so precious and I can't seem to fill it doing non productive things..does that make sense? I need to find a balance though for sure! With twitter I schedule tweets and then pop on maybe twice a day to reply to anyone, it's really helped! x

fritha strickland said...

not at all! It's such a compliment for you to say that! I'm so glad that book helped you too! x

Jen Walshaw said...

I have grown to love the days between New Year and Christmas as a time of general thanksgiving.

Foz said...

Oh I know how you feel. I have a 15 month old and currently a stay at home mum. I spend most of my day chasing around after her as she is a climber and at the end of the day feel like I have done nothing!!
Gorgeous photos x

Cass@TheDiaryofaFrugalFamily said...

I'm trying to spend less time on my laptop but then my OH bought me an ipad so I just have that handy instead ;-)

Laura Close said...

I love these photos - particularly the red phone box!


I often find it difficult to fill in the time between Christmas and New Year, so I know what you mean. We helped it a bit this year by being away until the 27th, seeing family on the 28th and then doing a bit of sales trawling...

Mellissa Williams said...

I love Netflix :)

Jess@AlongCameCherry said...

I am terrible at the moment. I don't get much chance to do anything in the day then at night I sit around thinking about how much I have to do without actually doing anything. I do think being on the laptop is far more constructive than watching crap on telly though. Although recently I've got into watching box sets and now we spend all evening doing that. The good thing is Matt likes them too so we do it together but part of me feels like I should be doing something more useful with my time! I do find it hard to relax and do nothing now though, mainly because like you said, after having kids you feel like you should make the most of every second of spare time! x

Wild & Grizzly said...

Gorgeous pics of those lost days between christmas and NYE. I know what you mean about finding a balance, I never get the time to do nothing during the day where I could do with a rest and then I do tend to veg in the evening when I should be using my time wisely. Catch 22 but I will be making a change soon x

fritha strickland said...

it's such a cute idea isn't it! x

fritha strickland said...

we are still very guilt of spending our evenings watching box sets! I think it's because we are just so knackered come 8 o'clock! I'd love to be able to listen to music or read a book or something but I know what you mean about feeling that at least you are watching something together! xx

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