Tigerlilly Quinn: That time when I yelled

Saturday, 19 April 2014

That time when I yelled


The other day I yelled. A basic exasperated 'arghhh!!' rather loudly, aimed directly at my son. It's the first time I've ever done this to his face and we both took a second to be a bit shocked. I then left the room to compose myself and tried and failed to return with renewed patience. Mothering a two year old can be hard sometimes.

Don't me wrong I've certainly used stern words, told Wilf off or repeated exasperatedly that he needed to 'hurry up' 'not throw food' 'give me a second whilst I complete a task' but I've never really shouted like that before. 

In hindsight there were lots of things I could have done to have stopped myself getting frustrated to a point where I couldn't stop myself yelling. Trying to pack orders, reply to emails, get a suddenly fashion conscious boy dressed and ready to leave the house and make a picnic! I need to remember that something has to give and I don't want it to be my patience. Those order's should have been packed in the evening, the emails could have waited another hour and maybe I shouldn't have given in to a request of three shoe changes and two T-shirt changes before 8am.

As it was we had to compromise and yet we still left the house on the sunniest day of the year with Wilf demanding to wear his wellies and not his sandals. He also left the house having drawn all over himself, the table and his play mat in the blue sharpie that I was using to write on orders and that will.not.come.off.anything.

And so what do you do with a morning like that? Well you go get a coffee for starters, lovely lovely coffee. Then you meet up with some good friends, their adorable/frustrating toddlers and you give them an Easter egg hunt in the park (because chocolate is just what they need ;))


As usual what we both needed was to get out the house and do our own thing for a little bit. Whilst the kiddo's ran off together to play on the slide and sandpit the mamas compared notes on how contrary a two year old can be. Then we gushed about just how wonderful they are too!

This parenting thing is always going to present new challenges to overcome, every so often I am going to feel frustrated or a little out of my depth but for the most part I just feel thankful I get to experience it all, even the difficult parts! Whilst I may roll my eyes at the tantrums I also cannot wait to tell Tom each evening of all the amazing, wonderful and funny things we did together too, me and my little boy.

P.S Hope you all have a lovely Easter sunday!

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119 comments:

Mummy Glitzer said...

Oh that first time you properly lose your patience is just horrible isn't it?! I know exactly what you meant though; they can be so frustrating and tiresome yet adorable as well.

Eleanor (The Bristol Parent) said...

I know that feeling well this morning. It's all down to tiredness for me, and how ready I feel to face a situation. The endless balance of my mind over what matters. Lovely sunny pics though Fritha! Happy Easter.

Lottie :: Oyster & Pearl said...

I remember the first time I shouted at my firstborn, we both were so shocked and upset. But now I've got two, it's less rare!


Sweet pictures; happy Easter x

Beansproutmummy said...

I have moments like thus and it's then I'm thankful we have a pantry I can shut myself in to compose myself count to ten and then tackle whatever situation has arisen

Erica @ To the Sea said...

I've had more moments like these than I'd like to admit. It makes me feel so horrible... Patience is definitely something I need to work on.

Katherine said...

Easily done, it's horrible though isn't it? Some days you have no patience but others you surprise yourself with turning round potential tantrummy situations with a bit of patience you had no idea you still had. Two is tough, for everyone.

Steph said...

Cute post - and I reckon being able to talk with good friends about the trauma of your toddler definitely helps! They're all tricksy, and those that aren't will have their time soon enough! Steph x

Sylvia Fiolunka said...

Sweet pictures! I love the outfit and those little hunters ;)

Polly Davies said...

I remember the first time I ever shouted at Lola... I think she was about 3 1/2 and Kiki was a baby... I felt horrid after :/ I have to remind myself sometimes to not try and do everything at once as that makes me more likely to shout as I'm stressed out

Twinsplustwo said...

Parenting can be really tough full stop. Not just the toddler years! Everyone has their limits, and whilst we all know shouting isn't the best response we are all human - and we all do it sometimes. :) Cute wellies too!!

Jodie Harvey said...

Golightly is lovely

LifeWithAsd said...

I love the all star

Emily Shepperson said...

My son particularly knows how to push me to my limits.

Michelle Ordever said...

There are times when we just lose it - it's a shock for the child and for you, and we all hope that they're rare occurrences. It ended in a lovely day for you in the end. x

Gillian Turner said...

All Star

Emily said...

Gorgeous buggy!

Sue Bowden said...

Lovely! Every will love these- I really like the Golightly x

Kelly said...

The golightly

jokow said...

Treet pattern

Carin Cullen said...

Parenting can be tough. There will be shouting. Not that we like doing it, but it happens. But he does look good in his wellies :)

oneblueonepink said...

Red bubble!

janine atkin said...

I love the All Star

XCdx said...

Treet!

Nayna Kanabar said...

Its hard being a super mum and being ideal all the time. Just put the incident behind and move on, kids have a short memory.

Margaret Dring said...

I like the Oaker best

Hazel said...

All so fab and funky but love golightly!

Kristy Leanne Brown said...

Love the GoLightly

Joanna Butler-Savage said...

I like oaker

Natalie Gillham said...

I like Golightly best :) x

Deborah Nicholas said...

I LOVE TREET!! I know i left the caps on there but i love it that much i have to shout!! haha

Fiona Peacock said...

It's so hard, I hate myself whenever I shout. I try not to, but I'm terrible when half asleep, especially when I'm being climbed on/having my hair pulled. Uch. I have the same tactic, if I feel I'm starting to get stressed, we head outside, that always seems to solve things. Doesn't work at 5am though. x

Claire Toplis said...

Parenting is hard .
They'll come through the tantrums xx

Amy Squires said...

I love watching children play even when they don't get on it's amazing how they connect with each other

Sian Regan said...

Pixelate!

snarepuss said...

oaker :)

Kim Newsome said...

Foxtrot :D

You Baby Me Mummy said...

Ah this is lovely hun. I feel the same, Sometimes it is so frustrating, but a second later parenting it is just the best thing in the world. Wilf is such a cool dude x

Elizabeth Williams said...

I love the All Star

Debbie Johnson said...

So glad you both got a good outcome to the day. Sometimes it's tough- but children seem resilient enough to hold their favourite moments close to their hearts.

fairyprincess79 said...

Pixelate

Tobys proud mummy said...

I love the Allstar xxxx

Laura Oxley said...

Oaker :)

Clare Mansell said...

I know that feeling very well and when you talked about solutions the first thing I thought was "leave the room" but the only problem is we are currently living in one room, so I shall have to find a different solution! :-)

Lia Louise Burns said...

pixelate

Jane Middleton said...

Oaker

Life With The Crew said...

Oh, I'm so with you on this! I have yelled more than once, I can truthfully say. And I don't like it one bit. And it does seem to be when I am trying to get done what I think needs to be done and not putting the needs (or wants) of my little babe first. I have to remind myself that I made this choice to be home 24/7 with her, so I have to pay more attention to the job at hand - her.
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Lani Nash said...

All Star

sue willshee said...

oaker is my favourite closely followed by treet

Olivia Kirby said...

treet

Rachael Jones Mann said...

pixalate

victoria leedham said...

All star

Emily said...

Your positivity is wonderful x

SUSANHOGGETT said...

All star

tammy said...

All Star is lovely

Donna Kent said...

I really like Golightly. Its cute. I like the red bubble pattern too but would probably play it safe.

Sarah Mcknight said...

Golightly

Fran Hallgate said...

All star

Kirsty Mills said...

Love the Golightly pattern.

Helen McCarron said...

I think All Star is so cool.

superscot said...

All Star

Lynn Neal said...

Go Lightly

Louisa said...

I think it is a very rare parent who hasn't shouted at their child on occasion. I'm sure they forget about it long before we do x

adorabelle said...

I love the All Star


Rafflecopter as Kerry Kilmister

isabelle smith said...

all star

Vicky-Louise Robinson said...

Pixelate

Věra Bahounková said...

Love Oaker patern

Clare Nicholas said...

I've certainly been there many times. It's sometimes impossible to control I do find shutting myself in the bathroom help as the kids can't find me.

petruska81 said...

Pixelate

Katie Walden Hall said...

Oaker :)

Laura Rocksteady said...

I can very much relate to this, it's very hard with a toddler and you have to multitask while being mindful of the moment, everything can build up, work, emails, getting them fed, dressed and trying to be one time and the frustration comes out, not at the but just in general. We all have those days but I think we grow from them as well.


Laura x

helenRMad said...

Oaker is really lovely

Allan Fullarton said...

All Star

jimmy said...

love it

hannah staveley said...

Love the boots you see so many go crazy over Hunters .x

Abu Amir said...

All Star

mamatoone said...

Allstar - Alexandra

Gemma Chantler said...

love the Golightly pattern x

Donna Clinton said...

Red Bubble is my favourite

Elisha Cook said...

Oaker and All Star are my favourite but all the Cosatto designs are awsome, they make the most fun pushchairs, have had Cosattos with both my boys and want one for my next too :)

niknaki said...

I love Treet

Stephanie Campbell said...

I love all star x

katherine b said...

I love Pixelate

LearnerMother said...

Cute boots! I sympathise with the yelling thing, sometimes it can be really hard and the frustration just causes an explosion...I haven't got any top tips for dealing with it I am afraid, though I do find that being short on sleep is my biggest trigger - not that there's much you can do about that when they are young :/

Jill said...

I like Oaker

Laura Vitty said...

LOVE love love pixelate, so cool

karen dixon said...

i like catwalk

michaela said...

oaker is my fave

MANDY DOHERTY said...

All Star is my favourite

Jacqueline Roberts said...

Oaker for me

Hannah oneill said...

Treet!

Anita Roberts said...

golightly looks smart xx

Lucy Collins said...

I love golightly!

Leanne Bell said...

Oaker & Treet are my faves.

Debbie Faulkner said...

My daughter loves Cosatto buggies and this one is just lovely.

Jen Walshaw said...

It can be hard not to yell. I am amazed that you have only just yelled at him. I am terrible for yelling, my anger gets the better of me sometimes. But you amaze me and you got out and did something rather than getting upset about it

Helen Craigs said...

Treet :)

Ktbennett said...

love it looks fab ...... i would love to win this for my sister ... i really love the yellow and you never know if i have another one i could always borrow it .... just dont let the hubby know just yet he he he !!!

Ktbennett said...

I really love the oaker but they are all lovely

Lydia Graham said...

I like them all but particularly Pixielate

lisa scott said...

Golightly is my favourite. x

Alisa Moore said...

golightly

colette sheeran said...

Treet

Sarah Saunders said...

Golighty is great

Terri d said...

Oaker xx

champaklal lad said...

Golighty

Jessica Neil said...

I adore Red bubble

Jennifer Rhymer said...

I love Oaker :)

nocona said...

I love Treet!

Mark Tebbutt said...

Red bubble

Kirsty Phillipson-Lowe said...

We all do it! Parenting toddlers certainly is a challenge and at times it can try your patience! I know my 2yo twins can push it x happy Easter x

Cass@TheDiaryofaFrugalFamily said...

It's not an easy job at all being a parent is it? I shout sometimes - I think we all do at some point. Well done though for not letting it get you down x x

Katie @mummydaddyme said...

It's hard being a parent sometimes, believe me I have done it many a time. Looks like you had a lovely day after all. x

Kara said...

I have to admit I get so frustrated at times with mine and I think we all have days when it creeps to the surface. Looks like they had fun on their hunt

Kerry Louise said...

Chocolate makes everything better :) Parenting can be so hard sometimes especially at this age too! x

abigail said...

wow I've definitely lost count of the amount of times I've totally lost my patience and yelled. It usually revolves around some sort of running off situation, and after I've said "listen" for the millionth time!


Glad you had a good day in the end though, sunshine and fresh air never fails to make things better!

Vaichin@RamblingThroughParenth said...

Whoever said parenting was easy had no idea what they were talking about. It is the hardest job ever, and we are all doing fantastically well.

Jess@AlongCameCherry said...

I can remember the days when I never had to raise my voice, sadly I end up shouting far more than I would like these days, usually exactly the same exasperated 'arghhhh'. When I have Cherry yelling demands at me and J screaming and refusing to be put down then anything else happening too just sends me over the edge and I find the stress takes over. I honestly am not sure if there is anyone out there who has never raised their voice though, if there is then they must be super-human! x

Vikki Holness said...

I think we all have moments like that as parents, it's a hard job especially when you're running a business alongside it and trying to find the right balance between it all. Motherhood is easy.....said no mum EVER! xxx p.s. chocolate and coffee solves all manner of problems!

Michelle Ashmore said...

I'm trying really hard not to shout in the mornings. We've moved a little further away from the school which means we have to leave earlier. I've found myself shouting at Ella every morning just lately because she's so drifty and gets distracted very easily. I hate it because it just makes me feel bad when she gets upset and gives us a really horrible start to the day. I will get it under control because the walk to school is really lovely when everyone's in a good mood :)

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