Tigerlilly Quinn: Father's day dreams

Saturday, 7 June 2014

Father's day dreams


My daddy and I

It would be fair to say I think that I was/am I bit of a 'daddy's girl'. That has changed a fair bit since becoming a mother myself and suddenly appreciating all that it is to be a mother (and cringing at how awful I was to my own mother!). Now I would say my mum and I have a very strong bond and an understanding that pre-motherhood and pre adulthood I just didn't really have. Today however I'm going to be talking about my lovely dad.

My dad was unconventional in many ways, he was a stay at home dad that picked us up from school and took us to playgroups. In the late eighties and early nineties that was really pretty rare, because of this I think myself and my siblings have a different relationship with our dad then others may have. Of course I'm not suggesting if your not a stay at home parent you don't have a strong bond but there was something very special about having our dad do the typically 'female' orientated jobs. My dad cooks all the meals, bakes the bread and does the ironing. I do believe because of this I was raised to see men and women as equals and never assumed a women could do anything a man couldn't or that a man couldn't stay at home with the kids. I saw my mum complete PHD's take Open University courses (on maternity leave!) and train in the vocation she wanted whilst still be able to have the family she wanted too.

My mum was a single mum of a toddler when my parents met and my dad was only too eager to become a father to my brother as well. In fact one of my sisters only realised our elder brother was not biologically our dad's son when she was around six! There has never been any difference to our upbringing and I know how proud my dad is of all his children.

My dad is pretty wonderful and special to all of us, he has gone out of his way to help us in anyway he could. Both my parents have sacrificed high earning careers or indulgences for themselves to make myself and my four other siblings were never without. We attended pretty much every club we ever wanted to join, learning instruments, art classes or sporting activities (bet you didn't know I used to go to synchronised swimming ey? ;)). We also were able to move around the country, and other countries and experience travel and new experiences on a shoe string but with our family creating wonderful memories.

My parents have never really taken time for themselves in around thirty years so if I could do something for my dad this fathers day it would be to give them both a break. Maybe a weekend away or even something simple like a meal out for a change!

As part of Braun's #fathersdaydreams I created this video. Braun are encouraging people to tweet about why their dad is a true champion and deserves to have his dreams made true (whatever that is!).

You find out more details here, don't forget to use the hashtag!


In association with Braun 

Afternote, for some reason in my video I mentioned twenty years or so of parenting..considering my brother is 33 I got that a bit wrong! Clearly I am stuck in the mindset I am still twenty!

87 comments:

Foz said...

Your dad sounds really lovely! And love this campaign about tweeting about your dad!

NewMumOnline said...

Oh this sounds like a campaign I would love to participate in. So lovely that you were part of such a large happy family (I am an only child and was out of touch with my Dad for 12 long years). Your Dad sounds very special indeed. xx

Michelle Ordever said...

What a lovely relationship you have with you dad - my mum always tells me I was a daddy's girl, but as soon as I was sick, it was her I wanted!xx

Twinsplustwo said...

Your Dad sounds very special indeed. My Dad is pretty cool too - and my husband also, me eldest is not biologically his and it has never ever been an issue and all my kids are treated equally by him :)

MinaJoshi5409 said...

It's really great to read about your happy family relationships and specially the bond you have with your dad. Bless you all.

spicers1976 said...

It's lovely to read about a great relationship between a Dad and his daughter

Jessica Hill said...

Big decorations! I agree with this so much, we had bunting and pink balloons when we decorated our little girls room and it was so much nicer than lots of fiddly bits and pieces everywhere! x

You Baby Me Mummy said...

Your relationship sounds amazing hun. I must admit I am a little envious, as my dad died when I was 10 and I never really knew him as he was ill prior to that. Not a sob story, it must just be so lovely to have such a lovely relationship. I hope you have a lovey father's day with him xx

Mellissa Williams said...

It's lovely that you have a good relationship with your dad. I'm off to look at the video!

Sarah Burton said...

Be relaxed

Lisa Valentine said...

Be relaxed.

Mike Martin said...

The most important thing I feel about entertaining at home is to just be
relaxed! Make sure you're not stuck in the kitchen, keep things easy
and fun so you are able to relax and enjoy yourself too!

san said...

Big decorations

Jackie Allum said...

Keep things easy

Sabita said...

throw cushions and blankets on the floor to create a more relaxed space and leave the dining table as a buffet type area.

Katherine Coldicott said...

Adding small touches like colourful straws and napkins it can really tie in a theme.

Elena vB said...

Go big with decorations

natzm23 said...

Be relaxed :-)

cheggers2000 said...

Be relaxed.

h_igoe said...

Flowers look great but cheat and use really good fake ones! Great tip - I'm not very green fingered!

Chris Fletcher said...

Just be relaxed! probably the most important one

Alice Hindley said...

keep it to day time hours which helps in terms of lighting. However, if
you are planning an evening get-together then fairy lights and dim
lighting is perfect for a cosy casual.

daisyduck said...

Just be relaxed. :)

rugmaker said...

Be relaxed

Paul Scotland said...

Just be relaxed

Tamsin Jane Dean said...

be relaxed

Jill Cordner said...

Be relaxed

Donna Large said...

go big with decorations

curtis linda said...

Go big with decorations

Solange said...

Go big with decorations

Hayley Colburn said...

throw cushions and blankets on the floor

Sarah Ballantyne said...

Go big with decorations

sherri fordham said...

throw cushions and blankets on the floor

Shauna Jade Barratt said...

Go big with decorations!

Angela Williams said...

adding small touches like colourful straws and napkins

Michael Crookes said...

Fingers crossed!

Nyrhtak1 said...

I love that second picture.
Also, synchronised swimming....! I also did that as a kid. Eggbeaters.

Allan Fullarton said...

Go big with decorations

Deborah Nicholas said...

throw cushions and blankets on the floor :)

Steven Montgomery said...

Go big with decorations

Tracy C said...

Add small touches like straws and napkins tying in the theme.

caro_mad said...

create a more relaxed space by throwing cushions and blankets on the floor

Katarzyna Szewczyk said...

Add small touches like straws and napkins tying in the theme.

Laura Wildman said...

Go big with decorations.

Laura said...

Throw cushions and blankets on the floor

Tamsin Jayne Wooldridge said...

Add small touches like straws and napkins tying in the theme.

kasia said...

Be relaxed

Carlie Bryan said...

Go big with decorations

Kelly said...

Throw cushions and blankets on the floor

Jenny said...

Go Big with Decorations - Great tip, I believe in this myself x

Jennifer Rhymer said...

Go big with decorations

Vicki A Smith said...

throw cushions and blankets on the floor

Karen Barrett said...

Throw cushions and blankets on the floor

Robert Price said...

Go big with decorations

Anthea Holloway said...

Go big with decorations

Helen said...

What a lovely tribute to your dad - hope you all get to enjoy a wonderful great father's day next weekend.

aaron said...

Throw cushions and blankets on the floor

lisa ellison said...

By adding small touches like colourful straws and napkins it can really
tie in a theme especially when the rest of the items are mix-match and
colourful also.

Lani Nash said...

To go big with decorations!

Emily Hutchinson said...

add small touches that match the theme

fritha strickland said...

I'm so sorry to hear that, I can't even imagine. Lots of love xx

fritha strickland said...

that's so wonderful, a sign of a real man I think :) x

Lisa Wilkinson said...

Throw cushions and blankets onto the floor to create a more relaxed space.

Caroline McKenzie said...

Just be relaxed

Stacey Melia said...

Throw cushions and blankets on the floor :)

Elizabeth Haggerty said...

be relaxed

Adele Hill said...

Throw cushions and blankets on the floor

FOXGLOVE38 said...

go big with decorations

lisa prince said...

aw what a lovely dad, i only have my dad left and love him , its nice to appreciate them all year though , love the pics

laura redburn said...

aw, so lovely. i don't get to see my dad much, and we're not really (emotionally) that close either, but i sure love him :)

Jess Howliston said...

Sounds like you have a pretty cool and very sweet relasionship with your dad! Its really true about realising what are parents really do once we have our own children and become parents ourselves. Lovely photos btw!

Jess
http://owlcrazymummy.blogspot.co.uk

Jess@AlongCameCherry said...

Ah he sounds amazing. I have a really difficult relationship with my mum so my relationship with my dad is even more special. I just wish I lived a bit nearer as I don't get to see him that often xx

fritha strickland said...

I rarely see my dad/folks either jess. Probably around twice a year which is a real shame, it's hard not being close to family isn't it. xx

fritha strickland said...

aww that's so sweet :D x

fritha strickland said...

very true! x

fritha strickland said...

haha yes!

Tami Anderson said...

Your Dad sounds amazing. How great to have had him at home when you were small. I adore those photos too.

Jen said...

I am very much a daddys girl too :-) although I totally understand what you mean about a bond with your mum when you became a mum yourself. I have always been close to my mum but now I understand a lot of her actions and comments x
Jen x
http://jenjbboutique.blogspot.com

Modelmum said...

Hats off to your Dad - enjoyed reading your story and he definately is a man that knows how to multi task!

Lia Billimore said...

Awww, that's so lovely Fritha - he sounds like a very special dad!

kathrynsharman said...

Your mum and dad sound awesome and I think your childhood must have been too. I keep saying to Greig please give up work and become a stay at home dad. It sounds trite because we all need money (but not that much really) and I think he would be so good at it. I daydream about taking the kids out of school and travelling round the world just so we can spend more precious years together. Does that sound really silly? Anyway, your post just made me think that maybe it isn't such a daft daydream although I doubt it will ever come true. Hooray for your dad xx

VaiChin @RamblingThroughParent said...

Such a beautiful and special bond! Have a great Father's Day x

Zena's Suitcase said...

Your Dad sounds lovely, as does your Mum. What a lovely post :)

Katherine said...

Your dad sounds a lot like my stepdad, he treats me as his own, always has, and he and my mum worked part time when we were growing up so there was always a parent at home. I never saw a dad doing all the parenting and housework stuff as anything unusual until a primary school teacher asked us to write a funny story on what would happen if our dads took over from our mums one day. Confused me no end!

Michelle Ashmore said...

Your dad sounds lovely and is very handsome! I'm a daddy's girl who also battled with my mum during my teenage years so I know exactly what you mean about having that special relationship when times with mum were tough. My husband isn't the biological father to my eldest but he's never treated Aiden any different to his own 10(!) children and has always just been dad to him. When he gets asked how many kids he's had he always says 11 and never says, 'but one is a step son'.
My dad is coming to stay for a couple of days tomorrow. He hasn't seen my new house yet and it's been months since I've seen him so I'm really excited :)

Rachel Cooper said...

Your dad sounds a very special man, and fair play to him being a sahd. My dad stayed at home in the early 1990s whilst my mum worked and said back then it was very rare,and was quite tough at tines!

Laura Rocksteady said...

I love this post - the only thing I wish about my childhood is that I had had more time with my Dad - he worked really long hours but use to take 3 months off every two years to take us on our travels but would of swapped them for more constant family time :)

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