Tigerlilly Quinn: Make up free me

Tuesday, 1 July 2014

Make up free me


Lately,  I've spent more and more time without make up. It's been so hot in the South West of England that the idea of it makes me feel a bit hot and bothered and I've just been rubbing in the sun lotion and leaving the house.

I know some people might be rolling there eyes that that's even a *thing* but really it's quite a bit deal for me. I'm not saying I'm usually caked in the stuff but I do rely on a bit of foundation, blusher and a lick of mascara and eye liner for my daily routine. It's my shield and as soon as I put it on I feel 'ready' for the day ahead.

When I was a teenager and university student my relationship with make up was a unhealthy one. I suffered from bad skin, used it to cover up the bad skin and suffered for worse skin as a consequence. I put make up on as soon as I awoke every day until around 11pm at night, even if I never left the house, I was so worried about anyone seeing me without it.

I met my first serious boyfriend a few weeks after I turned 17 and was probably at the height of my insecurities. I was so terrified of him seeing me makeup free that I would even reapply make up before I went to sleep and wake up earlier so that I could wash it off without him seeing and reapply more. This lasted the whole five years we were together and was completely a reflection of my body issues than anything he thought of me, I just couldn't bare the idea of make up free me.

In so many ways motherhood has changed me and being confident about who I am and what I look like is one of them. I've totally re-evaluated what is important in life and whilst feeling 'pretty' is important to me I've also learnt that I can still feel this way with or without make up. Like I said it's kind of a big deal for me.

Can anyone relate?

p.s as a afternote, I've not totally given up on make up, actually I love make up and think it's really fun but am glad I'm in a place I don't feel I NEED it. :) 

91 comments:

Alice said...

Oh yes I can relate! I've recently stopped wearing eyeliner and mascara as I've had a reaction to it. I am still wearing powder, but I've actually enjoyed not wearing eye makeup. Also means I no longer damaging my skin taking it off every night. Bonus!

caro_mad said...

I've become a lot more relaxed about make-up. I don't particularly like my skin and always caked on foundation and concealer to hide any blemishes or scaring, but I just don't really care anymore. It's part of me and if it stops someone from talking to me or makes them judge me, then that says a whole lot more about them then me. I've got other priorities now and rather have an extra 20 minutes in bed or with my daughter.

Jesss said...

I can definitely relate here, makeup is definitely a comfort blanket to me. I think/hope that as we get older, we get more comfortable with ourselves and it becomes less of an issue! I know the last couple of years, I've got to the point where although I wear makeup daily, I'm not fussed about popping to the shop without it, which is a huge improvement for me!


Jess xo

julie said...

totally relate - I was just the same as you (well, without the getting up early bit, couldn't be doing with that!) and never, really, never was seen in public without make up - to the point where even my parents were shocked the first time they saw me bare faced. Like you say, my lipstick was my shield, and without that on I felt naked, vulnerable and inferior.


Increasingly now, i feel the desire to wear make up less and less. It's not so much about being bothered or not, but more about accepting who I am, and realising I like me as I am, without painting anything on the top. I also care less what other people think (or have come to realise that they are so wrapped in their own worlds/dramas/insecurities, they are highly unlikely to notice - seems my ego aint as big as it once was).


Am even starting to seriously contemplate not dying my hair (I'm not yet 40 but have definite kisses of grey which I've always covered before, but am now seriously considering allowing to shine). I don't want to look like I don't care, but I do want to embrace all of me as I am, without pretence or artifice.


Great post, thanks!

kathrynsharman said...

Oh yes, can definitely relate to this. As I was saying last night on FB, I had oily/problem skin for a lot of my youth and used to wear a make up mask (which undoubtedly must have made matters worse).
I'm not great at going make-up free now although everyone says I wear really minimal makeup, you can hardly tell but I do feel more confident with my 'face on'.
Funnily enough, when I went camping for a week last summer it started to mean less and less as I was nowhere near a mirror. I believe we'd all feel a lot better without so many mirrors in our lives (and just used the back of a spoon occasionally). You look great anyway xx

Harley Richardson said...

GIRLS MEXICANA EMBROIDERED DRESS

Madamebu said...

I love the boys Savannah float suit. Beautiful!

ann clements said...

Boys Blue Stripe Linen Short

Gabrielle Powell said...

I really like the garden bench

Polly Davies said...

I very rarely ware make up now, a little concealer under my eyes, mnaybe a swipe of mascara and that's it. I used to put it on every single day, even if i was staying home and seeing no one!

Jess@AlongCameCherry said...

I think being in a place where you don't 'need' it is great, I'm totally not there yet!! I also had bad skin and used to cover it with terrible foundation which must have looked awful! I don't wear all that much now but if I can remember one morning not all that long ago I looked in the mirror and forgot I hadn't put any make-up yet and shocked myself! I hope to get to that place one day though, it's only fairly recently that I've been able to get in front of the camera and look at myself in photos so I'm getting better. You look amazing without make-up by the way xx

Laura Pritchard said...

I love the BOYS PALE BLUE LONG SLEEVE GRANDPA SHIRT

Emma Collins said...

such beautiful clothes but love
Girls Star Flutter Dress

sharon mead said...

http://www.kleeneze.com/shop/outdoor-living/outside-storage/keter-rattan-effect-midi-shed/ I think this storage shed would be so handy

Alison Perry said...

If make up didn't exist (heaven forbid) I can't work out if everyone would look fab without make up or if we'd still think we looked terrible. I look in the mirror make up free and shudder. That said, I do go make up free on the days I'm working from home and perhaps just popping into town or doing the pre-school run. You look fab x

Neill Johnstone said...

Boys Outer Space T-Shirt @garywasabi

Cathryn Daws said...

I'd love to go make up free but I have bad skin and dark circles. I feel so much nicer with make up when I leave the house. I don't bother if I'm not going anywhere!

Amez2012 said...

The Girls Mexicana Embroidered Dress is gorgeous!

Samantha Ripley said...

The Girls Mexicana Embroidered dress is the cutest thing ever!

Samantha Ripley said...

The chimnea and 10 piece BBQ set

renilebeau said...

I feel the same way about makeup! I love it, but sometimes I feel better just going fresh faced. Especially if I'm having a good skin day. Its very liberating going without, which I think in a backwards way gives back self confidence.

And you look beautiful without it!

the little lion girl

Adele Jarrett-Kerr said...

I've redefined my relationship with makeup in the last few years too. I wear it but not all of the time and I don't feel like I "need" it anymore. It's an incredibly freeing thing. I do need to sort out my skin though!

Alex Kerr said...

The 10 piece chiminea and bbq set

vicki hennie said...

I love the Girls Mexicana Embroidered Dress

Doreen Mccarthy said...

I love the girls coral; swimsuit and kaftan

ne-knopka said...

i like the
GIRLS KITE EMBROIDERED DRESS

Louise Jenkins said...

Love the boys kite t-shirt, but there really are some lovely things, not your usual boring boys cloths X

dorothy cavender said...

The Garden Bench

Samantha Atherton said...

10-Piece Chiminea & BBQ Set

Karina Davies said...

I love the 10-Piece Chiminea & BBQ Set, it would be perfect for summer

Liam Bishop said...

The outer space boys things, they are cool.

Michael Cannon said...

The chimnea and 10 piece BBQ set

Gill Crawshaw said...

You look lovely without make-up! I do still wear it most days, even if it's just mascara, as I feel really un'done' without it. That said, since I've been at home a lot more I am comfortable with a lot less x

antsofrome said...

10-Piece Chiminea & BBQ Set

Stevie said...

I think the towelling dresses are cool and useful. I like the aqua.
http://www.sunuva.com/girls/towelling-dresses/girls-aqua-towelling-dress

Jo Booth said...

I think I must have been doing something wrong, because I could only find the garden bench, so this would be my favourite. I do like the sound of the swinging chair mentioned by others, but I couldn't find it.

andi said...

Garden Bench

clairdownham said...

this is great

jandoc said...

i need a new garden bench

cherie shaw said...

I love the folding BBQ with cooler bag :)

Keshia Esgate said...

http://www.kleeneze.com/shop/outdoor-living/outdoor-dining-picnic/bbqs/10-piece-chiminea-amp;-bbq-set/

Andrew Halliwell said...

Folding BBQ With Cooler Bag

Rachel / The Little Pip said...

I'm so lazy I will do anything for extra sleep - so I frequently go to the office without makeup. That said, I just discovered BB cream, so I do use a bit of that, and some mascara reasonably frequently. Maybe as often as twice a week, haha!


You look great without makeup. Really, you do x

Katie Cutter said...

Ohio Chiminea - We have always wanted one of these in our garden :) x

Kat Glynn said...

I would love the Garden Bench x

AgentAllan said...

The 10 Piece Chiminea and Picnic set

kat walsh said...

Love the Ohio Chimnea.

Aideen McElhone said...

10-Piece Chiminea & BBQ Set - Love it :))

Aideen McElhone said...

Mexicana Embroidered Dress :))

Solange said...

The 10 Piece Chiminea and Picnic set

Danielle Vedmore said...

The 10 Piece Chiminea and Picnic set

Emma Falvi said...

The 10 Piece Chiminea and Picnic set

Emma Falvi said...

Girls Star Flutter Dress

Da Bo said...

The Ohio Chimnea

laura redburn said...

for most of my life i've worn no makeup at all. in the past few years i've started wearing it, but most of the time all i wear is a bit of concealer, foundation, liner and lipstick, but when it's hot all i wear is lipstick and (waterproof) eyeliner as i can't stand the thought of anything uh..melting on my face!


make up is a totally personal thing and people wear it (or dont) for so many reasons!

Lauren O said...

Pair of Solar Power Flower Bay Balls

Hannah Lord said...

I love this floatsuit! http://www.sunuva.com/boys-under-the-sea-floatsuit so stylish yet practical and safe

Mel Crossan said...

this is nice http://www.kleeneze.com/shop/outdoor-living/outdoor-dining-picnic/oudoor-tables-and-chairs/homedics-illumine-malibu-tabletop-flame-sculpture/

C Tindale said...

I LOVE THE

Item Number: 714020

amanda davis said...

4 Person Folding Table perfect for picnics with the kids

Rebecca Gransden said...

The Ohio Chiminea looks great.

Kelly Rae said...

loving the floatsuits. such a great idea.

Melanie Jayne Betteridge said...

floatsuits are brill x

Paula Burnside said...

Garden bench

Alexander Jones said...

The garden bench looks good

kirsty h said...

Ohio Chimine

Katy said...

Garden bench

Wendy Harris said...

The beautiful
Garden bench

clairdownham said...

i like this swimsuit for my daughter http://www.sunuva.com/girls/girls-birds-of-paradise-swimsuit

Bridie Summersgill said...

Homedics Illumine Malibu Tabletop Flame Sculpture

Damaris / The cat, you and us said...

Once you get older it is even almost unbelievable all the insecurities we had during teenage years, isn't it? While reading your story I was thinking, what?! she has such a cute sweet face, don't need make up 24/7 covering it! Unless you like it (of course!). I normally use only sun lotion and blush. Nevertheless, I find very fun to make-up for certain occasions, although I wish I was more talented (bad side of not practicing on a more daily basis, I guess...)

sarah christie said...

I love the Chimnea and picnic set

ELIZABETH SMITH said...

Garden Bench

Becca Townsend said...

The Garden Bench

Kirsty Thompson said...

garden bench

Tami Anderson said...

The Ohio Chiminea

james harland said...

love lots but my favourite is 10-Piece Chiminea & BBQ Set

Jen Shearer said...

2 seater garden bench

Val Pownall said...

Girls Aqua/White Bead Trim Dress - gorgeous!

Ann Skamarauskas said...

10-Piece Chiminea & BBQ Set http://www.kleeneze.com/shop/outdoor-living/outdoor-dining-picnic/bbqs/10-piece-chiminea-amp;-bbq-set/

Holly Chandler said...

I love the

10-Piece Chiminea & BBQ Set

Lianne Wightman said...

The Ohio Chiminea IS LOVELY AND WOULD LOOK PERFECT IN MY GARDEN!

rebecca whale said...

The 10 piece chimnea and picnic set looks great

Paul Aislabie said...

Garden Bench

Laura Rocksteady said...

Great post - and you look amazing minus makeup - I agree I am not a huge makeup person but I do use foundation daily and usually some moisturising lip balm and mascara but in summer it does make my skin worst sometimes


Laura x

David Allen said...

the Garden Bench ;-)

Joanne Higgins said...

Not exactly garden furniture but, what a fab idea these are xx

http://www.kleeneze.com/shop/outdoor-living/outdoor-dining-picnic/picnic/set-of-4-wine-glass-holders/

and very reasonable price too, I'm very impressed xx

elaine stokes said...

Garden Bench

FOXGLOVE38 said...

the garden bench

keshia said...

4 Person Folding Table

Christine Caple said...

The garden bench

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