We took these pictures a few weeks ago on an outing to the zoo gardens. There is a secluded little walled spot behind some trees with a stoney area and some fountains. A friend first pointed it out to me earlier last year and since it's been my favourite place to take Wilf. That boy loves stones and will play happily for well over an hour dropping the stones in the fountains, jumping in and out of the spray and leaving me in peace to drink my take away coffee. Tom often doesn't get to join us as we go during the week when it is quiet but we decided to take a trip the other day as a family and whilst W was happy amusing himself with the water we shot these silly selfies.
Tom and I got together when I was 22 (a week before my 23rd birthday) which always surprises me, I feel like I was 22 a million years ago but that Tom and I have only been together a few years (I'm 28). Which I can only take as a good thing I suppose! It's funny being the age I am now as it's the age we had initially decided would be a good point to start a family. Wilf of course came along a bit earlier, he was planned so I guess I just hadn't banked on how powerful feeling being broody can be! ;)
I have never been the girl to dream about getting married. Everytime I went to a wedding (as much as I enjoyed myself) I always felt panicky watching the bride walk down the aisle and I always thought 'I'm so glad I'm not doing that!' and it reiterated my idea that it wasn't for me. My parents have never gotten married, in fact they are both quite against for concept of it (more on that another day). I've always believed quite adamantly that the act of deciding to raise a child with someone is way more of a commitment than signing a piece of paper. That being said Tom and I discussed marriage quite soon into our relationship (I mean he did say he wanted to marry me after meeting me for just a few hours ;)).
We always said that if we did it would be to have a celebration with good friends, as a celebration of 'togetherness' I guess. I'm undecided on many parts of the traditional marriage, I'm in no way religious and it does bother me a little that choosing to get married is kind of being a hypocrite on that regard, despite the fact we're having a non religious service (would love to hear your thoughts on this btw).
There are bits we had to work out, would I change my name? Nope, in fact Tom thought it might be an idea to add my surname as a middle name to his. I didn't think too much about the whole surname thing when we had Wilf so he has Tom's and not mine, I felt a little sad about this a little while ago so we've considered adding mine is as a middle name for him or even choosing mine as a surname for consequent children. I like that marriage can be done on our terms, how we define our relationship and our beliefs.
Do I think getting married will make us more committed? Nope, choosing to have a child together did that and knowing that we loved each other cemented the 'for ever and ever' part a long time ago. Is it a nice celebration of the love we have for each other and as a family? Yep, I think so and I can't wait to share the rest of my life with this guy xx
p.p.s you can read our engagement story here and here if you like