(in case you are wondering top - Boden*, jeans - Anthropolgie* Wilf's outfit details below)
It's the last weekend before we get hitched. Full of last minute prep and if I'm honest more than a few tears and tense moments!
On Friday I was feeling very tearful and very much overwhelmed with it all. Thankfully I have good friends who force me to abandon the a million things I had on and go to lunch. As our kids were in nursery it was a real break to just let off some steam and have a good old vent and a giggle!
Feeling much better we decided to make an evening of it back at the house and whilst our kids played and stayed up way past their bedtime and our partners had joined us from work I started to really relax about the whole thing. There's nothing better than having a good time with real friends to remind you that actually being around the people you love it exactly what it's all about, regardless of your Pinterest boards or your idea of the 'perfect' decor.
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The weekend was very much full of ups and downs but I think that's to be expected 5 days before such a big occasion. Even though our wedding is going to be super low key I guess I didn't realise just how much organisation goes into a small wedding!
I've had a few emails about how getting married means you have finally chosen the one person to be with for the rest of your life and how that makes you now committed to each other. Whilst I get the sentiment it's something that makes me bristle a little if I'm honest. Tom and I had decided this long before we planned on getting hitched and deciding to have a child together was the biggest commitment we could make. Whilst I'm sure I can't comment on that 'married feeling' quite yet I certainly don't think the couples/families I know who have not or don't plan to tie the knot are any less committed than we will be. Maybe I see it differently as my own parents are together and have been for 30 years without getting hitched.
If I'm honest there is a lot about the traditional idea of marriage that I think it a bit odd and if I'm honest a bit sexist. Your father handing you off to be another man's property for one makes me feel really weird! I'm glad I live in an age and a culture where we can decide which parts we want to keep and which we don't want to do. I do get the whole sentimentality for fathers and daughters though, I'm often the one with a tear in her eye watching the bride dance with her dad!
I guess marriage means different things for different people. For us I think we just want to celebrate our 'togetherness' with our friends and family, we want Wilf to be part of that too and in many ways it's just a celebration of our little family. I'm so excited to see all the people we love in one room especially as some of them we so rarely get to see. I dunno, I'm aways one to over think these things I guess, does it have to be defined?
I seemed to want to take a lot of photos against walls this weekend, be that what it is. On Sunday it was the first day that actually felt a little bit cool and I was so excited to get out my winter coat! I bought this one from Zara about two months ago now and have been itching to wear it. I have tried on a couple of occasions previously and got ridiculously overheated!
This is the skirt* I was talking about in this post, I couldn't resist getting it although Tom has made me promise not to buy anything else until our honeymoon as we are planning on vintage shopping on our trip. My shoes are by Orla Kiely* and are so comfy to walk in, they will be getting a lot of use this Autumn for sure.
Wilf got sent this beautiful top by Magnificent Stanley which is a homemade business ran by a lovely mama of one (or two I guess if you count her cat Stanley). I love the quality and he has been getting lots of compliments since wearing it. Thanks Becky!
And that was our weekend! Next weekend is our wedding weekend, omg!