Tigerlilly Quinn: What Mama Wore

Tuesday, 30 December 2014

What Mama Wore


Coat - Vintage
Dress - c/o People Tree* (on the sale and you can get a further 10% off with code TIGER10)
Jumper - Uniqlo
Sparkle boots - c/o Boden*
Scarf - Primark

A frosty morning walk the other day. We decided to take Wilf's birthday scooter out to a park a train stop away from us and pop into a few charity shops on the way. This time of year has been a bit overwhelming and we are dealing with a fair amount of three year old meltdowns. This particular day saw a huge number of them and we got home in the afternoon feeling like we'd ran a marathon. Sometimes its completely exhausting raising a small person.

For the most part I feel pretty happy with the way we parent and I'm often so proud at how self assured and thoughtful my little kiddo can be. Then there are times when we are on the second tantrum of the day, it's not even lunch time and we are getting the stink eye from other members of the public.

I mentioned on my FB page how I was feeling and so many of you guys left useful suggestions on gentle parenting articles with some ideas on how to tackle this. I've added a few books to my shopping list and hoping we can try and work through those days a little better. All I know is I don't want to resort to yelling as really then I know I've kinda lost hold on the situation and Wilf does too.

I'm kinda glad it the festive period though, how appropriate is it when you can have a glass of bucks fizz at ten am when you are feeling like you really need one ;)

Any advice on how to deal with toddler tantrums calmly and without resorting to yelling or punishments? I'd love to know if any particular books rang true for you!

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12 comments:

Jess@AlongCameCherry said...

This sounds great and such a lovely idea for Tom (not sure who to address the coment to?!) and Wilf to have some one on one time. I also hate soft play!! x

Kerryy said...

Love the scarf, I have one that looks identical from the market! :)

Kerry @ Lived With Love | Mummy, Fashion & Lifestyle Blog x

Claire said...

I love the sparkle boots! Hope things settle with Wilf soon. Being out of a routine is a hard time and they often have these "phases". Keep calm and you'll get there. :-) Hope the books help. xxx

AlexanderResidence said...

I once wrote a guest post somewhere on creative ways to deal with tantrums. I cam dup with loads, not that I am an expert, but my son is/was so headstrong! Changing the subject, distraction, doing something totally silly or unexpected, shouting OH WOW look at that and pointing into the distance is an unbelievably good one, walking off, picking up a magazine, pretending to be a pirate, talking to the child via their teddy, having a secret distraction bag of things to play with. The worst ones are always when they are out and about :( Or... how about...OH MY GOODNESS LOOK MY SHOES ARE SPARKLY! xx

Eleanor Willock said...

I will be following this closely for suggestions, I hope things get brighter as 2015 progresses!

laura redburn said...

this was lovely to read, and it really sounds like the best decision has been made! i'm sure wilf is pretty happy about it too!

Nicola said...

Sounds like a lovely setup that really works for you. We do something similar - I work full time but my partner has dropped down to two days a week, and on those two days our little boy goes to a childminder - a friend with a son a similar age, which is perfect! It's great that there are so many options and that most businesses are willing to consider part time working, it makes for a nice balance.

Wild & Grizzly said...

It's so great that Tom has extra time to spend with Wilf, Paul would love extra time with F. At the moment Paul travels so much that any time with F is precious. I hope they both have loads of adventures! x

Jess@AlongCameCherry said...

Love this outfit and LOVE those boots! And sympathy on the challenging behaviour, my two have both been a total nightmare since Xmas and I'm not going to lie I have ended up shouting a few times. They've started fighting and Cherry will pick something of Tiger's up and run away from him with it so he screams, it's so annoying!! x

Laura Rocksteady said...

First of all I love those sparkly boots!!! They make for happy feet. On another note we had terrible trouble with Mr A from around 2 3/4 until just before his 4th birthday - we have only seemed to come out on the other side - it's so hard and exhausting but it does pass, the main thing is to just breath. We just tried to make our home a very clam place, we start the day out with camomile and apple tea for Mr A and we try to prepare him for situations that may cause a meltdown before we get there.

Laura Rocksteady said...

Oh this is such a wonderful post Tom! I think having a good family balance is very important as you cannot get the hours and days back - my father worked very very long hours to ensure we had what we needed (of course we were very grateful) but what I wanted most of all was more time with him. We have spoken a lot about John working less hours, at the moment it's not possible although he does go into work late on a Thursday - giving a few extra hours that morning for him and Mr A to have some quality time


Laura x

The Owl and the Accordion said...

Those boots are amazing! I spotted them a while back, they look fab on you. I have absolutely no pointers on tantrums, but I'm going to be rifling through my gentle parenting books while necking the wine and crying here!

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