Tigerlilly Quinn: Don't buy her flowers

Monday, 12 January 2015

Don't buy her flowers


A little while ago I wrote about 'the early days' and the items I couldn't do without in motherhood (and the ones I could!). Shortly after a lovely mama called Steph Douglas dropped me an email to tell me about her business 'Don't Buy Her Flowers'

I know when Wilf was born one of the most thoughtful gifts we received were food parcels (or vouchers for meals for two). The last thing you really want to do when you have a new born is think about cleaning the house or cooking food so anything that can help with that is such a treat.

'Don't Buy Her Flowers' was thought up when Steph had her first baby. She says 'I started it mostly because I think receiving an additional thing to care for when you’ve had a baby is, frankly, a bit bonkers and yet 96% of new mums receive flowers. I think women deserve to feel a bit cared for after having a baby because those first months are tough. New mothers, whether they realise it or not (and unfortunately I think we’re too busy punishing ourselves or feeling guilty about something to realise it) give a lot.'

'I received eight bunches of flowers when my first child was born. We didn’t have a lot of space and we certainly didn’t own multiple vases. I had to give them away or bin the least fresh to make way for the most recent. I also felt completely overwhelmed with everything – the baby, the visitors, the bodily functions – and trying to arrange flowers and then dispose of them was all a bit much, however pathetic that sounds. I found that other parents felt the same and Don’t Buy Her Flowers was born.’


We tried out her 'dinner date night in' and it was such a treat for a January! Even though we don't have a new born, we do have a kiddo and the Cook vouchers that were included were so appreciated! I love the idea of giving this package to new parents, you have food covered for at least a week, a night of relaxing with candles and chocolates and of course a celebratory glass or two of fizz!


You can find Steph's site here and her sisterhood blog here.

(this pack would be kinda perfect for valentines too don't you think?)

What do you think? Would this have been what you wanted as a new mum? What were your favourite gifts?

15 comments:

Monica Gilbert said...

That would have been really cool to have received. The only thing I'd want different is a non-alcoholic option for the champagne. I was breastfeeding constantly and wouldn't have been able to enjoy it. I will say that those chocolates look amazing.

Sim said...

This is a brilliant idea. When I had my twins the best gifts (and to be honest only ones I really remember) were a food parcel from The Food Stork, home cooked food and a baby bundle that included essentials for the baby such as nappies. I now try and buy more practical presents.

Kelly Rae said...

I completely agree new parents shouldn't get flowers. I didn't receive one single flower from anyone and I'm glad haha. Food is always a good idea though.

fritha strickland said...

ha I remember those constant breastfeeding days! It felt like I was a milk machine! ;) I guess it would depend on your feelings towards drinking alcohol and breast-feeding, I certainly enjoyed a couple of glasses of wine or two, I don't think I would have been able to bf until two and half without a drink here or there :) xx

fritha strickland said...

food parcels are such a life saver aren't they! What good friends, love the practical gifts like nappies too x

linsdcb said...

Oh goodness, I'm not a Mum but I totally appreciate the no flowers thing - after a few disastrous attempts by Mr to surprise me with flowers over the years which have invariably gone wrong, we've now agreed that any other gift is welcome and if I want flowers I'll buy them. Mums deserve to be pampered too, in a useful way X

SlummySingleMummy said...

This sounds like a lovely idea! Flowers are just a waste for me as I think I have maybe one vase?? I'm rubbish at remembering to water them, even without a baby!

Lia Billimore said...

This is a really good idea - i'd have loved more food bundles when mine all came along - that and some champers too, naturally ;)

Steph said...

Lovely to read the comments about Don't Buy Her Flowers! It's all still so new having launched in November, so v reassuring. Thank you Fritha xx

kathrynsharman said...

I think any mum would be grateful for a gift set like that, newborn or even older. Great idea!

Fiona said...

Ah I love this idea. I liked getting flowers after Ebony was born, but I think 8 bunches would be a bit much! This sounds much more useful. A friend bought me cupcakes and I thought that was a pretty good gift :) xx

Monica Gilbert said...

I avoided it in the early days when she was feeding around the clock. Once she got more predictable, I'd have some. She's a bit over 2, and I give her a feed in the morning. So I have no problem having something to drink with dinner or after she goes to bed. I agree that I wouldn't have lasted this long if I completely cut it out.

Em Conway said...

Fab brand and fab review! x

abigail said...

I love receiving flowers, probably because I don't get them enough! But I can totally relate to how it is when everything is a bit overwhelming in those first few weeks. These packs are a great idea though!

Sarah (@tamingtwins) said...

Hurrah for gorgeous gifts for new mums! Love my pal's new venture, she's a clever old stick isn't she?!

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