Tigerlilly Quinn: Pregnancy - boy and girl - can you spot the difference?

Tuesday, 21 July 2015

Pregnancy - boy and girl - can you spot the difference?

So clearly I'm not an expert. I've had one pregnancy with a boy and one with a girl, it's not exactly conclusive of anything really other than these pregnancies have been completely different and they also happen to be different genders. However I find these things fascinating and I'd love to share my experience and see if it's similar to any of yours.


From the moment we found out I was pregnant in the public toilets of Vondelpark Amsterdam, a moment of dread filled me. I wish it hadn't, I wish I had been jumping for joy or beaming like Tom was but the sudden realisation of the months of sickness I had ahead of me made me feel like weeping. All the memories of Wilf's pregnancy came flooding back and I wondered how I was going to be able to cope. I woke each morning from week 4 to week 5 wondering..when will it start? As it happens I started to feel poorly from the start of week five and it continued to around week 16/17 (so around three months). Although this time was pretty awful and actually wasn't as bad as my first pregnancy and it was my first inkling that this pregnancy might be different. Despite the old wives tale of sickness being stronger in girls I know that my mum always suffered more with boys as have lots of my friends.

Although I actually had no idea of the gender at first I started to really think it might be a girl around 14 weeks. I was constantly hungry in a way I hadn't been with Wilf, to the extent of eating a full lunch at around 10.30 and then again at 12. I also started feeling completely and irrationally hormonal. I know most people are pretty hormonal in pregnancy but this was something I'd never experienced before and to be honest could sometimes feel quite scary! It actually made me feel like I understood my three and a half year old a little better too as the tantrums I was pulling could rival his any day!

My bump looks different. My bump with Wilf felt like someone had just put a football under my top, it got big really quickly and was aways very noticeable. This time round I have days where you might not even notice I'm pregnant to days when I look massive. This is me at twenty weeks with Wilf and currently..


I've always wondered if people 'know' what gender they are having but I actually started to forget we didn't know ourselves at around 16 weeks as I was accidentally using the word 'she' and 'her' without realising. I also felt guilty and self conscious every time I realised I was doing so in case people thought I had a strong preference and also incase I was wrong.

A lot of people have asked how I feel to be having a girl and of course I am thrilled but I would be equally thrilled to be having a boy and that is the honest truth. I think as we have decided this is our last baby (for me simply because I cannot go through the sickness again..ever) I would probably always wonder what a girl would be like had I had another boy but I'm no more pleased than I would have been otherwise. Being a mum is such an honour and being one to this little boy of mine over the past three years has been the biggest blessing in my life. He has taught me more about myself, made me a better person and enriched our lives like I could never imagine.

Did you feel a difference in your pregnancies and were they different genders? Did you feel like you 'knew'? I'd love to know!

p.s I'm also doing a pregnancy blog over on Cosatto each week if you fancy a peek!

(p.s both my outfits are from Boden)

172 comments:

caro_mad said...

I knew that Amy was a girl right from the start. I didn't even consider that she could be a boy and shook my head when everyone told me she was. I don't know, if we've got a sixth sense as mothers?

Molly @ Mother's Always Right said...

I thought with both of my pregnancies that I was having boys but they both turned out to be girls! I had quite different pregnancies with both my girls and they've both turned out to be totally different babies, so I think every pregnancy really is very different, even if you're carrying the same gender. That's my experience anyway!

Charlotte Taylor said...

I am so curious to see how it is for me when we have another. I was sick with Bill up until around 20-21 weeks. Or at least - I felt unwell up until then. I hope it's a little easier next time. I REALLY hope. xx

Tammy Tudor said...

lots of bright colours, flowers and clean out junk! <3

Gemma Brown said...

open curtains and doors to let light through , and some flowers for some colour

fritha strickland said...

I hope it will be for you too, but I suppose even if it isn't you also have the hindsight that it's SO worth it..that being said it's such a miserable thing to go through I'm 99% sure I can never put myself through it again! It was much much worth with Wilf though so who knows xx

fritha strickland said...

see I wonder had Wilf been a girl if I would have thought the same because I really couldn't get my head around having a boy. This time round I had no idea until about 14 weeks but also because I had a previous pregnancy to compare it to. Some people do just seem to know though for sure! x

fritha strickland said...

yer I mean to be honest my mum has had three girls and two boys and all the pregnancies were different so she said she was never really sure either way. The only thing she felt differed was the strength on the morning sickness and I think that is supposed to be genetic so if your own mum was worse with girls then apparently you are more likely to feel that way too? If I was to go on to have another then I'm sure that would be different too, I definitely felt like this one was a girl where as with Wilf I had no idea either way! x

Gender Experts said...

I have 3 boys..all of my pregnancies felt different! We can certainly relate to this post! Our blog has tons of gender prediction fun stuff if you're interested! Www.thegenderexperts.com/blog

Sarah Rees said...

Pastel colours and fresh flowers

Lah-rah Cro said...

Flowers, flowers and more flowers! Swap winter curtains and cushions for brighter colours, throw open all the windows and doors and hang garlands, bunting and wind chimes! Ta da!

C Kennedy said...

Flowers are a great way of brightening up the house! We also removed our big thick front door door curtains as it lets so much more light through

maureen findley said...

i remove the net curtains and open all the windows

Nicola Lynch said...

Flowers, candles and fresh air. I've really been trying hard to declutter this summer and get some bright accessories for the house. Starting to feel a bit fresher and brighter!

Chantal Milk & Nappies said...

I've only had one pregnancy and had a boy - I was very sick too! I wonder if you can tell the difference or if they're all just different in general xx

Newcastle Family Life said...

I have three children and I guessed wrong with all of them. I have two girls and one boy and I did notice a difference with my girl's and boy , I had nicer skin and hair with my girls and they moved around a lot more. xx

LauraCYMFT said...

I have one of each, boy first then girl. With my son I was nauseous up until 16 weeks. Then I started being sick after eating certain things. I got lots of headaches too. With my daughter, I still had the nausea but I don't think I was ever sick with her and it didn't last as long. My bump was smaller but I think that was to do with having no time to eat extra and running around after a 1 year old LOL. I didn't have an idea of what I was having with my son but we did find out we were having a girl. I craved sweet things with my son but savoury things with my daughter. I love all the old wives tails. I used the Chinese Gender prediction calendars and they were right both times.

Victoria MyLittleLBlog said...

to buy bright coloured cushion covers and flowers

Lorraine Tinsley said...

Throw open the curtains and blinds, get the natural light into the house. I also love flowers, but not expensive ones, I've been getting daffodils and tulips when they are in season, I have also had some wild flowers from nearby fields

Adele Jarrett-Kerr said...

My pregnancies were so different and yet both girls. I was much more tired pregnant with Ophelia and with her I craved sweet things whereas with Talitha is was all about the sour. I was even sucking lemons with her! I have to admit that I really thought we were going to have a boy, mainly because I have a brother. But now, I just cannot imagine having a son. I love having my girls and I thought I'd wonder what having a boy would be like but I really don't. We're fairly certain we're done too. Pregnancy wasn't so bad for me but I'm not sure how well I'd cope with another baby!

Layla said...

Clean windows. With kids they get so dirty and it's amazing how much sunnier the house seems when they're clean.

Amy said...

Brightly coloured flowers in a pretty vase

Rachael Walton said...

Fresh paint and flowers

Sinead Charlotte said...

Bright flowers

Lucy said...

I've had three very different pregnancies... so figure that one out!!! Hehehe. There were some definitely significant differences between 1 and 2 that I think gave the game away that they were different genders (totally different shape bumps: I had that football bump with BB, but was just bigger generally with BG, I had huge boobs while pregnant with BG but none of that the first time around, my skin and hair were amazing with him and not so much with her, and I had a linea nigra with him but not her) but then it meant number 3 came as a big surprise because it's been so different again. If I had to pin it down I'd say it's been more like BB's pregnancy, and yet I was sure from about 5 weeks this time that it was a girl (mainly down to the sickness which I hadn't had before but which 'they say' is worse with girls), and never had any inclining the other two times. It's just mad when you think about it, you'd think your body would 'do pregnancy' the same each time. But I do think we seem to be having a few pregnancy similarities with our little girlies, so maybe there is something in all the old wives tales about gender. x

Claire Noke said...

My children like to make bunting and love painting lots of pictures, I love bringing in fresh flowers from the garden :) xx

Liz Marriott said...

Don't forget to keep the windows clean for maximum light

Niki said...

Light colour paint and no net curtains. Lets the light in and reflects off the light walls.

fritha strickland said...

this one is a real wriggler but my skin is awful! think it must be the hormones as I had terrible skin as a teenager too? x

Jennie Jackson Mse said...

lots of bright flowers in window boxes

fritha strickland said...

that sounds really similar to me! Although I was constantly nauseous this time round I've probably only been physically sick about 15 times where as with W it was 24/7 nausea plus three times a day sickness! My neighbour did the gold ring test and it predicted a girl haha! x

fritha strickland said...

I think you tend to think that way. I have a big brother and always thought 'you had a boy first and then a girl' which of course is silly but has ended up being what happened with us! I also think it's hard to imagine being a mum of a gender you don't have, I'm still getting my head around having a girl because all I know is boy! xx

fritha strickland said...

omg the bad skin! I need to add that to my post because it's awful! With Wilf my skin was fantastic and this time round I'm like teenager again! I do thin there is something in the wives tales too! especially the more hormonal part!! I just realised I don't have linea nigra yet this time round, I did with Wilf, I wonder if it will appear? xx

Sarah T said...

Bring flowers from the garden inside, throw curtains wide open and crack windows to let in the light and fresh air, and use bright colourful accessories against white walls

Gwyn said...

Brighten up furniture by adding colourful cushions

Danielle Vedmore said...

Opening all the windows - let the light in lol! And bring the outside in - lots of flowers and plants

Kirsten Stewart said...

I love lots of fresh blooms in the house - peonies especially!

Jen Walshaw said...

I was so unwell with all my pregnancies. I just knew both the boys were boys (odd I know), but I was right! I also had terrible spots on my back. In fact I understand the fear when learning as I was sick from week 5 until a week after giving birth

Bryony Brooke said...

Change the curtains for a light/bright colour

Amanda Sandercock said...

Flowers always brighten the place

JuggleMumBlog said...

I have two children - a boy and a girl and I had different pregnancies with both! With my girl I was very sick at first but not so much with the boy. However I did get very hormonal with both! I didn't know what I was having with either and couldn't have guessed. I daren't get fixated about one sex over another in case I got it wrong so I just went for the surprise and now I'm blessed to have one of each! Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy - won't be long to go now!!!

Michelle Ordever said...

I've only got the one - a boy - although I was convinced he was girl, right up until he was born (never found out the gender!) I do hear that people have different pregnancies with boys and girls though! x

shirlz51 said...

new lighter coloured curtains always freshen my house up

Rebecca Austin said...

Having flowers and plants indoors

Gill Crawshaw said...

I was convinced I was having a boy first time round (so much so that I hadn't even considered that it could be a girl, we had a boys name picked out and everything). It was a massive shock to find out I was wrong. Second time I felt a lot sicker and more exhausted so thought it might be a boy (wrong again!). Think it was just due to second pregnancies being more tiring when you have a toddler. I had cravings for carbs early on then very sweet things, which I think is a girl pregnancy thing x

Dianne Brewin said...

De cluttering, always makes the house feel lighter and brighter

Erika said...

I have no experience in this I a afraid, but you look wonderful and I am sure no one would think you had a preference at all.

Kristyn said...

Give your house a clean through and spruce up :)

John Russell said...

Chuck out anything modern and stuff full of Art Deco. even the tele would go.

alison clark said...

Have flowers in the house they look nice and smell nice and can brighten any room.

Diana said...

Fresh flowers and open windows :)

Clare Hubbard said...

Keep your curtains open and windows clean!

melanie r said...

Windows open, fan on and a nice candle or scent burning

Sarah Bailey said...

It's amazing how sometimes we just seem to know things. x

Louise Smith said...

Flowers in every room and windows wide open

LauraCYMFT said...

Opening windows and having a good old clean. I take my curtains down, wash them and iron them, clean the carpets and paint bits that need doing.

Colette B said...

I've also been working hard on trying to brighten up our house - we are lacking in natural light so I'm constantly searching for ways to lift things - lighter, brighter colours are my current ambition.

Kenneth Thomson said...

Candles help set the mood no matter what time of year and makes your house a home.

mummyslittle peeps said...

New cushions for the sofa to brighten themi ge up

Emma Fox said...

Flowers - bring the outdoors in.

foz said...

Lots of fresh flowers

Lauralou Marshall said...

Some lovely new bedding. X

Ruth Hedges said...

A good spring clean with a change of brighter curtains always makes my house feel more summery

Natalie Osborne Thomason said...

Bring the outside in flowers from the garden and fresh herbs for cooking x

Sarah Buckley said...

Lots of fresh flowers!

David Marks said...

Visit pinterest and get inspired. Good organisation and innovative solutions get me excited :)

amyjbeckett said...

Keep the windows open

Suzanne Howell said...

I have the windows open as much as possible and also cut flowers and herbs from our garden and bring them indoors.

Gail Reid said...

We swap the curtains for blinds, open the windows as much as possible for a fresh feel too

Diane Carey said...

Change your curtains/cushions/bedding/table linen for bright summery fabrics. Vases of summer blooms and summery scents from candles etc

Lily said...

Fresh flowers, always! Guaranteed to brighten any room :)

emily harvey said...

Windows open, fresh flowers, clean linen :)

AnnEliza Dawson said...

plenty natural light if possible and bright colours

BARBARA M said...

I always try and freshen up with a touch of paint firstly ,and then wash all the curtains and furnishings this brightens and freshens it all up and the whole of the house seems so much more alive

AbbyP said...

Open the curtains and plenty of plants :)

Victoria Prince said...

My door stays open almost constantly in the summer - nothing like the sun streaming in to brighten up the home :-) (maybe not today...). Plenty of natural light, and bright summery colours for the furnishings

Nora Saab said...

sunflowers, they always brighten the room

Diane Wood said...

once the sun starts shining through the windows, I notice all the fingerprints and other marks on them. Whilst I'm cleaning them, I spot just how filthy my net curtains are, so off to the washing machine I go. After that I'm only fit for shopping for new soft furnishings (and a few hard ones before my fella tells me to tighten my belt!)

Jo Wakefield said...

Have a good clean of the windows, open the curtains and introduce some lovely pastel colours

Pen Else said...

I do a massive clean-out of Stuff which always seems to accumulate over the rest of the year. Clear windowsills, a floor I can see throughout, shelves containing only ornaments and essentials. Everything else goes either in the bin, or in boxes in cupboards.

Bluebell said...

sunflowers or flowers in general!

Maureen Quinnell said...

Updating a worn out garden bench with some light blue paint

Christina Curtis said...

I love fresh flowers! and a big summer time sort out selling any old Junk.

Veronica Lopez-Smith said...

Lots and lots of flowers

Carolynne @ Mummy Endeavours said...

I've had a boy, a girl then identical boy twins! So three pregnancies, the first two very similar with hardly any pregnancy symptoms... felt fine with both... yet one was a boy and one was a girl! My twins were very different. Felt awful, had all sorts of complications... had lots of restless leg syndrome, heartburn, swollen ankles and hands... you name it i had it. But I LOVED being pregnant and I'm very VERY broody seeing your bump here :) Congrats xx

Donna Large said...

flowers in the house

Tracy A said...

Lots of bedding flowers and hanging baskets really brighten up my garden and outside of house.

Anna Davison said...

Keeping windows open to let a breeze through - when it's warm enough anyway!!

Jane Middleton said...

opening windows and let the sunshine in

Anne said...

I find it really interesting as well. I'm sorry you've had to suffer such awful sickness though, that's one thing I got away with despite having tons of other problems. The only baby I didn't guess the sex properly was my first (might be the reason?) I really thought it was going to be a girl and I had a boy. The other four I guessed correctly, I did find out the flavour of number 3 (mostly because it hadn't been available for the first two and I wanted to see what it was like to know) but I still knew anyway that I was having a girl. I had, in order, boy, girl, girl, girl, boy.

Steven said...

Lots of pots of herbs in the kitchen, looks lush and smells so fresh.

David Cavender said...

lots of flowers

lindsay chadburn said...

i always open up the windows to freshen the place

Jess@AlongCameCherry said...

See interestingly I had things the other way round, with Cherry I was a bit nauseous and very tired but that was about it, with Tiger I was throwing up horrendously for months then was an absolute hormonal monster for the rest of the pregnancy as well as feeling really quite depressed and down for a good portion of it, I put it down to all the testosterone! And funny with Tiger as I craved egg and bacon sandwiches, not something I had ever even eaten before or since!! xx

Emily Hutchinson said...

Fresh air and flowers!

trevor linvell said...

Keep the curtains wide open and have bright flowers on display

Mel Hill said...

Try and de clutter and I always have the windows open :)

Alison MacDonald said...

Have vases of flowers in your rooms make sure you have nice sparkling clean windows and have a nice smelling air freshener thats light and floral.

Barbara Handley said...

Do not draw the curtains in the sitting room at bed time so when I get up in the morning the room is full of sunshine.

Suzanna Gentle said...

Fresh flowers in all rooms. Think about repainting rooms to a light continous colour such as cream with creates the impression of a much larger continous space and lightens the whole home

Julie Howarth said...

Lots of fresh flowers 😊

jade said...

Let the sun shine in and have some pretty flowers

Lynda Brown said...

fresh coat of paint and beautiful lilies :)

claire s said...

have a good clear out of all the clutter you don't need. Be ruthless. The space instantly makes you feel uplifted! (then fill it with flowers and bright things!)

Karen Barrett said...

Open windows and clean them

helen0903 said...

De clutter , wash curtains and windows , bowl of pot pourri ♥♥ Great prize ♥♥ Fingers Crossed ♥♥

Claire Barker said...

Tie curtains back to maximise the sunlight shining into rooms and angle mirrors to bounce the light around.

Donna Caldwell said...

Opening up the windows and letting some fresh air in . Also lighter curtains and loads of fresh flowers

lesley said...

I can always find something from the garden to put in a vase. My favourite though are Sweet Peas :)

kate andrews said...

Open up the windows, use lighter bed covers and some beautiful bright flowers

Sandra Mullen said...

A colourful bunch of flowers.

janine atkin said...

fresh flowers and colourful cushions

Marrian said...

Put lots of flowers around the house.

melanie crumpton said...

Put fresh flowers around your home.

Phil Boyle said...

Fresh flowers

Victoria said...

I like to have bright throw pillows and fresh flowers :)

lynn savage said...

I like to change my curtains, rugs and cushions to lighter brighter ones during the summer

Beautyqueenuk said...

Ive never been pregnant but I do love all the old wives tales of how to find out the sex x

israrbaig said...

Use of light colours and posters

Helen said...

coolio

norrisluvsmary said...

Fresh flowers from the garden in every room xx

Emily C said...

Pastel colours are brilliant, I love summery pastel blues and yellows!! So summery!!! :)

rugmaker said...

Get as much light in as possible

Jeremy said...

Use light colours, tie curtains back to let in as much light as possible and keep furnishings etc to a minimum so that the room feels bigger.

Sue Dorking said...

love using lighter coloured cushion covers and vases of fresh garden flowers everywhere

Christine Dodd said...

Bringing flowers in from the garden

emma louise gough said...

a vase of bight flowers :)

C h a n t e l said...

Declutter & add bright (colourful) accessories/storage options to the rooms that need a summer lift.

♫ Alison M ♪ said...

Clean the windows, do a spring clean and add some flowers

comperoo said...

Fresh flowers and light coloured curtains

cat Holdcroft said...

de-clutter and clean the windows

Jayne K said...

Packing away all the accumulated winter clutter

h_igoe said...

I love picking fresh flowers from the garden lovely bright ones always brighten up a room

Rachael Goodwin said...

Changing the curtains for something lighter/brighter!

stephanie lovatt said...

flowers from the garden brighten my home

Paul Gee said...

Buy some colourful art prints to hang on the walls.

Eleanor Wigmore said...

Fresh, brightly coloured flowers and open windows!

HollyG said...

Rearranging the furniture can really open up a room, adding some new cushions as well can give it that extra brightness!

Kelly said...

declutter and clean

Lucky Dan said...

nice flowers

Chantal Botha said...

Declutter and make the most of the beautiful fresh flowers which are about to give a splash of colour!

Jennifer Ingram said...

I love a fresh coat of white paint on the walls to brighten the place up.

Catherine Joyce said...

Vases of flowers

Jenna Rothen said...

bright flowers

Sarah Robinson said...

Fresh Flowers and new cushions

Bex Smith said...

I've only had one pregnancy and wasn't sick at all so not sure if you can tell the difference between pregnancies. I've heard pregnancies are usually different in general though x

Kristy Leanne Brown said...

New lighter throws

Jamie Millard said...

switch accessories. summery colours on cushions, bedsheets etc make all the difference.

Patrick Kamau said...

Summer Fruits in a basket

Lynne OConnor said...

Fresh flowers, fresh air and removal of heavy winter fabrics - rugs, curtains etc

thomas mckinney said...

I would always say fresh flowers are the best option

Ellen Stafford said...

Get some fresh flowers, open the windows for fresh air.

Qasim Mahmood said...

Flowers and putting up bright, colourful pictures

Vicky Williams said...

Lots of flowers everywhere. They always make a room brighter.

yasmine041 said...

bright flowers around the house

Tracy G said...

Fresh flowers in the house always brighten up the place. I even put them in my holiday home.

Leslie Evans said...

Remove Net Curtains

Gemma Surtees said...

Flowers

Kelly summerfield said...

Lots of fresh air.. open all the windows and some beautiful summery flowers :) x

Zoe Dennett said...

nice fresh lick of paint, light colours soft furnishing, lemon is great

denise said...

New cushions to brighten and give the room a new summery look

Natalie fairhurst said...

paint the ceilings

Lyn Bosomworth said...

new curtains, nice and bright

GCforever said...

Get the emulsion out and start painting. You don't need a different colour - just a fresh coat of paint.

supastar1501 said...

I love to wash the curtains and a new bedding set makes me happy too :-) x

Daphne said...

I am busy growing herbs for the window sill, they look fab

Nick said...

Bright flowers and some bright accessories I can buy with the John Lewis voucher!

Laura Pritchard said...

Use tie-backs on curtains to let more light in.

Philip St said...

Light summer curtains replace heavy thermal-lined cosy winter velvets.

Dolphin Warren said...

Fresh flowers in a colourful vase.

Susie Clayton said...

Decluttering, and having the windows open as much as possible

LadyChelington said...

get some brightly coloured cushions and throws. give sills and doors and lick of gloss paint.

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