Tigerlilly Quinn: When my dad & brother came to stay / Walking babies and Life Lately

Saturday, 27 August 2016

When my dad & brother came to stay / Walking babies and Life Lately

When my family came to stay :


I don't see my family much, in fact probably about once a year at best and with some of my siblings even two years can go by without us seeing each other. I'd love to say we are the family that FaceTime everyday or catch up without fail once a week, but we're not. Our family dynamic isn't perfect, sometimes it's downright messy and emotional but they do mean a great deal to me. I spent a lot of my life wishing relationships with my parents and siblings were picture perfect or 'perfect' in my idea of what parents were meant to be like or what sisters were meant to be like, or what I was meant to be like even.

What I've learnt as I grew older is that you cannot make people the way you want them to be, just like I'm sure I'm not always the sister or daughter they always want me to be. Accepting people how they are and hoping they will do the same for me. I'm just as flawed as anyone else for sure. One thing I know is that my parents are good people, they have morals and values that I respect immensely, they care a lot and they fight for what they believe in. We love each other, even if we see each other rarely or if only speak every few months. Relationships are messy often, they can be painful and wonderful and lonely and happy and lovely and sad and all the in-between. I can be as complicated as the next person, so can my parents or siblings or partner, I feel like relationships are never easy, are a constant work in progress.

One thing for certain though and that's how my dad loves being a grandad (or a 'grumpy'). The way he plays with my children, the same way I remember him playing with me. With so much love and enthusiasm that they are his whole world just the way we were when we were small. My dad was a stay at home dad, my childhood is full of wonderful memories of our time together.

When we picked Wilf up from nursery with my dad last week he literally leapt into his arms. It doesn't matter if it's been six months or a year, the love my son has for my dad and my dad for him doesn't know any time restrictions. It makes my heart swell and ache at the same time. Life is complicated and life is simple at the same time.


My dad and brother were only down for one full day and it was raining so we grabbed some lunch at Bambalan and went to the Bristol Museum to look at the dinosaurs, I always take for granted how lucky we are to have free things like this to take the kids too. I don't think we've ever got bored just wondering around taking it all in. This time I realised one of the fossils I'd looked at tons of times was actually of a pregnant dinosaur with her little baby found next to her, I found that really moving! 


Just as they left we started to organise Wilf's room in preparation for some plastering to be done on it this week. We brought his old walker downstairs and just LOOK at what this little girl is doing! Slow down little baby I am not ready for this..


Just as they left we started to organise Wilf's room in preparation for some plastering to be done on it this week. We brought his old walker downstairs and just LOOK at what this little girl is doing! Slow down little baby I am not ready for this..

(Mabli's dress is from here*)


I made a little video of our week as usual, I hope you like it. I'm trying to constantly upload every Saturday and have so far kept to it for the past three weeks! If you wanted to subscribe or like my videos then it would mean the world to me!


Thanks as always for reading xx 

1 comment:

georginaemery said...

Lovely post!
This reminds me so much of my dad. He stayed at home when we were growing up and was always doing fun things with us: building dens, swings etc.

I don't have a family right now, but I know that when I do, he'll be the best grandad!

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