Tigerlilly Quinn: Life Lately (Quitting jobs and finding balance)

Friday, 14 July 2017

Life Lately (Quitting jobs and finding balance)

Life Lately..


I can't remember how much I told you about our plans to move house, we decided upon it and I'd mentally said my goodbyes to the home that saw my children being born in (right on the dining room floor!). We put so much of our heart into this place and saw so many of the best years of our lives so far. It felt sad but I felt so excited to explore somewhere new..

Then life happened, some big changes suddenly came up, decisions to be made and we decided that these things can't all happen at once. So moving house has been put on hold but some other exciting things are going ahead!


Namely Tom decided to leave his current job and for us both to work together/parent together full time. It's been on the cards for a while, with the stress of having to juggle work and also how my work can't really progress without being more flexible (one of the main things is being bound to the school run and childcare for Mabli). I generally turn down a lot of things that involve travel and although I also do turn down a bunch of things that wouldn't be a good fit for a number of reasons it's felt increasingly frustrating to have to say yet again 'thanks for thinking of me anyway!' and a fair share of FOMO.


I tend to think we live fairly frugally, we don't drive, we own our home (but it was bought 7 years ago in one of the cheapest areas of our city) and our biggest outgoings mainly consist of food expenses (ha!). Although Tom actually liked his job he has never been one for climbing a career ladder and I don't think he'd mind me saying that being together as a family and spending more time with the kids is one of the most important things for him. In tern I LOVE my job and find it increasingly frustrating that I can't fulfil different creative aspects of it. 

Our kids are still so little that it seemed mad to turn up the chance to make spending this time with them together and co parent equally whilst they are so small. Whilst it's a risk (this is where not moving house right now comes into play) it's also a really exciting time for us so I'm looking forward to what it might bring. 

Either way nothing is forever, so many mothers take a few years off work before children start school so when we thought about it like that it didn't seem like it was too crazy for Tom to be doing so, even if it meant going back to an office job in a few years time if it made sense then. You just don't know what things will be like until you give them a go right? So we're making that leap and fingers crossed it does ;)

I think I might do a video on the subject so do let me know if you have any questions. I might even persuade Tom to join me but he much prefers to be behind the camera so we'll have to see on that one!

I'd also love to know if any of you have a similar set up! Please tell me you're a couple that works together and don't want to kill each other? ;)

5 comments:

Hattie Garlick said...

Eeeep! This is so exciting! Go Tom! Go Fritha! You guys rock xxxx

My coffee thing said...

We're a couple that work and parent together and regularly want to kill each other but when it's going good it's brilliant and right now we are in a great place

Carie @ Space for the Butterflies said...

We did that leap two years ago - we realised that trying to both work and juggle school and childcare was going to make work an expensive hobby and that we wanted to give the children the gift of a stay at home parent and it just made a lot more sense that that was John and so I went back to work full time when Pip was one. It's still fairly unconventional to be the Mummy breadwinner but becoming less so, and the girls have a good handful of school friends with stay at home Daddys (or two Dads) that they're not an oddity for it. For us it was definitely the right decision and if it ever becomes the wrong decision it's easy enough to switch it up!

Kerry Villers said...

I'm so happy for you all. I feel like this is the ideal way to live. I only wish we could do the same! Exciting times ahead for you all xxx

Kay & Dan Baker said...

Exciting and fantastic news
As you know myself and dan work together well as childminders and we love it and love being parents to our 3 girls at the same time x

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