24.1.18

Forever a Parent - My Three important life lessons

My parents have taught me many brilliant life lessons, ones that I have carried with me to adulthood and ones that have helped me in parenthood myself.


(thats me at three-ish in the grey overalls, unfortunately I didn't inherit my mum and brothers curly hair!)

I can't imagine a time when my children won't feel like my babies, even when they are adults and parents themselves. I know that there are times when I still need advice from my mum (especially when I first became a mum) I hope that Wilf and Mabli will always feel able to come to me and ask for help and advice. I'm working with Legal and General in this post to share the advice I was given and the advice I want to instil in my children as part of their #foreveraparent campaign. Let's face it you never stop being a parent do you?


According to research, 90% of parents still feel responsible for their adult child's wellbeing, with 76% also feeling responsible for their adult child's financial security. I know my parents have done what they can when I've been in a tight spot, moving to a new city and struggling to pay the deposit for my first flat I was so grateful for their help. Whilst I want my kids to be able to look after themselves in the adult world I know if they needed our help we'd do what we could to support them. Its not surprising then that almost half (47%) of parents who said they felt responsible had taken out a life insurance policy.


When it comes to the pieces of advice I want to pass down to my kids, here are the things that I think are the most important :

  • To be kind always. The most important thing my parents ever taught me was that being kind is the most important thing you can be. To help others less fortunate than us and be thankful for all we have.
  • Have an opinion. A lesson I was so thankful for as a young girl especially. I want both my children to know that they have a right to an opinion and each will be valued as much as the other. 
  • That we can get it wrong and we can learn from it. I want my kids to know that we are not perfect, we can make mistakes and learn from others too. I hope my children know we are all flawed at times and all learning just as much as anyone else.


Legal & General's research has found that the adult children across the UK continue to seek advice from their parents on a range of matters, from financial planning to childcare and careers. Financial advice remains the most popular topic with more than a quarter of parents to adult children having given financial advice in the past two weeks.




I'd love to know what lessons your parents passed down to you or what lessons you feel are most important to pass down to your own children. I think we can probably all agree we'll never stop worrying about them or caring about their wellbeing. I really hope that the lessons I want to pass down to my kids are ones they will carry with them into their adult life.

Do you think you'd want to be able to help your children in adulthood too? 

This post in written in collaboration with Legal and General and their 'Forever a Parent' campaign. 





23 comments:

Yeah Lifestyle said...

Loving all your childhood photos, its true what you have said about your childhood and how it has impacted on your kids and your parenting values. We embody what our parents taught us.

Emma White said...

I wont lie when my 18-year-old daughter moved out into her own home I cried and was worried sick had I done everything right to raise a stable and happy adult, I need not have worried she manages perfectly and I am very proud of her. Its very hard to bite my tongue and not interfere too much with some choices she makes but hey she will always be my little girl

Hayley Warren said...

At 28 years old, I still find myself calling my parents almost everyday to ask for some advice. I'm sure they're a bit sick of it now but they're always the first people I go to.

Bethany Sibley said...

So so cute, I love tha you still ask your Laurent’s for advice, I would to, my parents are my world and I’m pretty sure I’d do the exact same when I’m a parent.

Five Little Doves said...

Oh I love this! Your photos are absolutely beautiful, we were in Bath in the summer and I love it! And yes, I totally agree, I want to teach my children to be kind always. xx

Jinzo 2400 said...

I think "Have a educated opinion" would be a better piece of advice to share but hey,that's my opinion,right? *s*

Melanie Williams said...

Great advice - learning that we do get things wrong and learning to accept and grow from this is so important x

Rhian Westbury said...

Learning from your mistakes is great advice, as we can't be right all of the time. Gorgeous photos too x

Chrissy Faery said...

I love this and your pics are absolutely beautiful! I don't have children yet myself, but if I did, I'd love for them to be as close with me as I am with my parents. I'd also want them to be unafraid to dream big, and be who they want to be. xx

Jemma @ Celery and Cupcakes said...

Oh what great photos! I think "always be kind" is a lesson I would like my children to take with them :)

Kirsty Ralph said...

I think you have the right priorities and lessons to teach your children. Being kind and polite to others is such a big lesson and one I hope to teach my daughter. If I could give her anything it would be the love and security needed to feel safe and happy in her own abilities.

Rachel Evans said...

I have been so lucky that my parents have helped me out financially. I would like to be able to do the same for my children as well.

Joanna Davis said...

My mother has helped my with the tuition for my uni, so I didn't have to take a loan. It's sad really that these days children have to rely on their parents to help them with finances.

Dannii Martin said...

What a lovely post and your family photos are just gorgeous. Being kind is one of the most important things our children can be.

Lubka Henry said...

I'm only finding out now what it means to be a parent and I know I'm on a long learning journey.
I absolutely love your photography style!

Laura Ferry said...

I’d love to be able to help my future children out financially but also teach them to be self sufficient too x

Lauretta at Home and Horizon said...

Lovely photos! It's just great to be able to give our children those advice.

Alison Rost said...

Such adorable pictures! I agree, a parent's job never ends once a child is old enough to be responsible for himself/herself. I think it's one of the things that I've learned throughout the years a parent and now a grandmother. I love the lessons that you plan to teach your kids through the years.

Angela Bethea said...

I do agree about what you said about being kind and to pass on these values to our children. I also want to add the Golden rules that says, Do not do to others what you don't want do unto you.

angela milnes said...

What a beautiful photos and I love your advice, Always be kind glad that you share this post

Helen at Casa Costello said...

Your Mum & brothers certainly do have amazing hair! But back to the point, completely agree with being kind being the focus of everything.My dad always lived his life by that - I hope I have inherited some of his goodness.

Mira said...

Great lessons! I find that these days parents are even more worried about their children as adults than in the past. And I'm not surprised to read the statistics you posted. I'm sure I will want to help my kids to some extent when they are adults, but I hope to raise them to be independent, problem-solving adults who will understand the difference between needs and wants and will be able to go without if necessary.

Laura Hartley said...

Interesting to hear that 76% of parents still feel responsible for their adult child's financial situation. I thought that would be a lot lower! I imagine that figure is only going to go up and up what with the housing market the way it is.

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